212: Opening Up Your Monogamous Relationship w/ Emily Gindlesparger

March 3, 2024 Robbie Kramer

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212: Opening Up Your Monogamous Relationship w/ Emily Gindlesparger Robbie Kramer

Show Notes:

3:15 – why do men stay monogamous?
3:43 – open relationships can help you grow
4:11- It means different things to different people
5:25 Emily Ginlesparger
7:00 What made you want an open relationship?
7:50 How listening to podcasts started the idea
10:21 how it felt different than expected when it actually happened
11:49 dating experience up til now
14:01 Men can lack confidence to be honest
16:05 how did it happen the first time
10:05 how did you handle it with your partner
23:32 Sharing the experience can bring partners closer
26:05 Open relationships push you to be your best self
28.21 What was the structure of the conversations with your partner
31:16 what was it like to be in a triad
35:43 Communication is especially key
36.24 what were the most difficult times to communicate
40:44 Lying comes from a desire to control
42:41 The journey is different for different people
44:34 Dating so many people is like a second maturation process
46:12 In the end it was back to monogamy
46:34 Mistakes were the real teachers
47:15 Sometimes just knowing is enough
47:50 Forced monogamy can breed resentment
48:45 What stopped you from dating women in the past
51:12 how did masculine/feminine polarity play out
54:25 Did you mostly date women outside your partner
57:23 Are men jealous of their partners dating women
59:20 Not all men are the same
1:00:36 What changes did you see in your partner
1:10:27Both partners learn how to handle negative emotions
1:02:03 What is your advice
1:03:25 Not all issues can be solved in your head
1:04You have o forgive your self
1:05 :25 is there a stigma talking about sex
1:06:44Writing the book was about honesty
1:08:28 writing down your thoughts help to process them