Guest post by James, Leverage Program moderator
Walking around the city of Belgrade in Serbia, you can’t help but notice the immense beauty that radiates from the women here. The education level, the physical features, and the smiles all bring me to want to meet them and get to know them and learn more to explore my natural curiosity. I have challenged myself to talk to as many as possible while being as honest as possible.
Walking up to a girl here, with my heart beating like a Sven Drulea bass drum, the words that come out of my mouth are as follows…”I saw you walking and I just really wanted to come up and introduce myself”. It feels really good to say that. That is the truth. It feels really good to say what I am thinking.
I have come to realize that every time I think that about a girl I see here and I refuse to go up to her and say that, I am lying to myself. I am eating away at my insides, which slowly but surely breaks me down.
Every time you see a girl you want to talk to and you make an excuse for why she won’t talk to you, you are lying to yourself. You are telling yourself a lie to make your life easier in the short run, which is slowly breaking you into pieces in the long run.
We often learn in school about telling lies to others and how it is wrong. When do we ever learn about lying to ourselves?
Being true to yourself, your desires and what you want, is the way to build confidence and develop into the man you want to be. I see a girl, I find her attractive, and I want to talk to her, and that is 100% the truth.
When is the last time you walked up to a girl and told her exactly what was on your mind?
Are you being true to yourself?