Why you should be rock climbing (for dating).... I googled ‘rock climbing gym’ then hit images. Notice how many girls are in the images. 18 reasons why you should do this: There are days I’ve gone to a climbing gym and there have been 42 girls and 26 guys. Groups of 2-4 girls often go climbing. Climbing is very social. It’s totally normal for one group of randoms to make friends with another group of randoms. In one session you could in theory talk to 20 people. You could also talk to zer0 if you choose. Both are common. If you meet a girl and she climbs, she’s in shape … [Read more...]
How to Set Goals: The Pillars of Life
Guest post by James, Leverage Program moderator Sitting in the airport in Buenos Aires, after a weekend of food poisoning and partying, I was feeling pretty miserable waiting for my flight that Sunday evening. I was writing and avoiding my travel friends, just going through my normal weekly routine and trying to prepare for the week to come. Phillip, a guy I met that weekend came over and asked me what I was writing about. I really looked up to Phillip but I hadn’t been able to create the relationship I wanted with him. He was a deep thinker, entrepreneur, in great shape, and charming. I … [Read more...]
The Truth About Height, from a Leverage Moderator
Guest post by a Leverage Program moderator Don't let something you can't change become an excuse. I am not a small guy, but I've had a unique experience. I am 5'11 170 pounds, and I am only attracted to tall athletic girls, 5'8-5'11. That means that they're taller than me when they wear heels, so most of the time I meet a woman out, she'll be taller than me. Tall girls have issues about being big, but a 6'5, 240 pound guy makes them feel small. Most women who are 5'8 and up want to date really tall guys so they can feel small in their arms. I am by far the shortest and smallest guy any … [Read more...]
Bringing Day Game Into Your Everyday Life
Guest post by Patrick, Leverage Program member You’ve read our blog posts on why you should day game, you get the concept, but are you still struggling to connect with girls when you hit on them? The game changer is that you need to start incorporating day game into your everyday life. Luckily for me, I live in New York City, where the opportunities for day game are endless. While it is definitely important to set aside some time to go out and practice day game, especially when you're first starting, your goal should be to incorporate practicing your communication skills on a daily … [Read more...]
If You Play it Safe You’re Boring
When you look at guys who are great with women, or anyone with peak social awareness, they perform a bunch of smaller actions that add up to an arsenal of social skills. These discrete skills combine to form a killer ability to communicate with others and assertively get what they want. When we’re teaching you to improve your dating life, we focus on a lot. Accumulating as much practice as you can and playing the “numbers game” is part of it. Developing your character is also part of it, and it can seem overwhelming to go from where you are now to the success you really dream of. While … [Read more...]
Inner Confidence on Elite Daily: Yes, Women Actually Do Pay A Lot Of Attention To The Way You’re Dressed
At the end of the day, being dynamic is your greatest sales pitch ever. The end-all, be-all is becoming a man who’s witty, charismatic, driven, spontaneous and grounded. This is the whole package, and women will pretty much do anything to be with a man who’s dynamic. If you don’t know how to dress, it immediately sends out a signal you’re not dynamic. Continue reading on Elite Daily. … [Read more...]
Do I Need To Be Rich To Date Hot Women?
A lot the teachings of Inner Confidence are how you can use minimalism to be successful in all areas of life. There's a big misconception out there that you need to have money to date women. It's crucial to understand that the only lasting method of having a healthy dating life is to first, develop the characteristics that women find attractive, second, learn how to display those characteristics, and third, put yourself in situations where the kind of women you want to meet will notice you displaying those characteristics. Money can be a signal for traits that women find attractive, like … [Read more...]
5 of the Most Effective Tips for Improving Your Vocal Tonality
Some guys are born with a naturally powerful voice that turns women on. Most guys aren't as fortunate. Some guys have naturally picked up good habits from their peers, friends, and families. Most guys don't put in this kind of effort, but they should. Even professionals like sportscasters have spent hundreds of hours working on their own and with coaches to sound more confident. 1. Open your mouth wider Do you mumble? Open your mouth wider. Do you speak too quickly? Open your mouth wider. Do you speak too softly? Open your mouth wider. This could go on and on, and there's a good … [Read more...]
Develop Your Inner Confidence Interview on Pickup Change
I was recently interviewed by pickupchange.com We talked about how to build your confidence and make your approach to girls more natural and effective. Here’s what we covered in the podcast: The easiest way to meet girls How to develop your inner confidence How to overcome approach anxiety What is the average success ratio in daygame How to enjoy the process and stop being focused only on the outcome Do looks and wealth really matter? How to spot a girl who is actively looking for … [Read more...]
Do you agree too much?
A common mistake that guys who don't have well-developed social skills make is that they are too agreeable. They don't want to tell girls no. They don't want to make polarizing statements. They'd rather go with the flow than rock the boat. They avoid controversy. At first glance, this seems like it's a good idea. If you aren't a social genius or a beast with women, why take a risk that has a chance of hurting a relationship or creating tension? Here's the problem: when you're in the middle, you're vanilla. You need to be polarizing to be attractive to people. You need to filter some … [Read more...]
