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Want to Hook Up with Her? Give it 7 Hours and You’re Usually Golden

One of my clients met a girl a while back who he really liked. She liked him too, and they texted back and forth for a while before setting up a date (side note: if you’re spending days texting girls and not meeting up with them, you suck at text game and you need THIS).

He picks her up at 5:00 pm, and they spend the next few hours bouncing from location to location, getting to know each other, and making out. This girl didn’t have a job, she was fresh out of college and living with her parents.

At 11:00 pm, six hours later, he took her home. And left her there. BAD MOVE.

The Magical 7 Hour Bang Rule

I couldn’t believe it when he told me this story. He had a great date that was six hours long – but, like an idiot, he ignored the Magical 7 Hour Bang Rule (or he didn’t know about it) and completely blew his chance at sleeping with her on the first date.

Oh, YOU don’t know about the Magical 7 Hour Bang Rule, either!?

Okay, here it is, and this is pretty important: girls are 10,000 times more likely to sleep with you after seven hours. Once they’ve spent seven hours with you, they feel like they know you and they’re ready to bang.

Think about it: all your hookups, all your one night stands, any sex that happened on the first date – it was all times when you met her at 9 and slept with her at 4 am the next morning. Seven hours.

The Magical 7 Hour Bang Rule doesn’t have to be all at once, either. Maybe your first date is three hours, the second date is four hours, and BAM. Done deal.

In other words, this client of mine, had he only kept this girl out for one more hour, would have had it in the bag.

The Perfect First Date

Alright, so what should this guy have done? That’s easy. Here’s the breakdown…

5:00 pm, he picks her up from wherever and takes her out. For the next seven hours, his job is now to continue the date and take her from location to location which creates a greater sense of intimacy and familiarity.

I don’t care if you’re bar hopping, I don’t care if you’re at the mall and walking from store to store, I don’t care if you’re at a nursing home visiting all the different old people in their rooms, whatever. Just make sure you’re on the move and connecting over an experience.

At 11:00 pm (seven hours later), you take her back to the house and make out a little bit. It’s only 11 pm. It’s not like it’s early.

By 1:00 am you’re watching some Youtube videos, laughing, making out some more. By now you’ve been with the girl for ten hours – she’s going to sleep with you.

And if she sleeps with you, and you’re really good in bed, she’s yours. Because girls don’t just abandon dudes they sleep with on the first date and risk adding up numbers. That’s just the way it goes.

The Lesson: Know the Magical 7 Hour Bang Rule. Live by it.

Review of the IC Introductory Workshop

by Robbie Leave a Comment

We recently had 5 new clients join our Leverage Program from the Phoenix area.

I always love when this happens because it creates a satellite community within our group and because the guys are local, it’s very easy for them to spend time together, wing each other, and push each other to grow faster.

And because all of these guys were at pretty similar levels when it came to meeting women, I decided to drive out to Phoenix for the weekend with a few of the moderators to get these guys started off on the right foot.

(Review of The Phoenix Workshop – By Jad Morris)

I’m at home..bored..alone..playing video games and watching Netflix..fantasizing about woman I wish I could be with.

Watch some porn at night and masturbating to the women of my dreams..my house is a fucking pigsty… I am eating like shit..fat..overweight and dressed like an idiot…zero confidence and hating my life with no genuine friends or social skills.

How many of you can relate to what I’m taking about? May be you’re in a similar situation?

Enter Robbie, Sasha, Maxwell, Tyler and Cameron. These alpha males saved my life from utter failure and hopeless chances of ever having solid inner confidence in what’s needed to be a fucking beast with woman.

I get to the workshop not having a clue what to expect. Instantly I wanted what these guys had. Charm, charisma, confidence and an “I don’t give a fuck” attitude and most of all…the hottest women I’ve ever laid eyes on on a regular basis day after day with ease!!

They have me do Day game approaches..recording my interactions with woman with a microphone and video camera. These guys reviewed it and I got feedback. I failed miserably and everyone laughed about it including myself and underneath I was like what a fucking pathetic loser I am.

Then they showed me their first interactions and encounters with woman and they were just as bad and I thought to myself..ok if these guys can do it, so can I.

I learned about approaching woman in many different scenarios with the men.. What to say, my body posture, even the speed of which I talk. When I say it, how I say it..all of it matters.

Tyler and Cameron forced me to approach random woman in the mall. Was difficult..I was chasing women all over the place..they even made me run out of a car and approach a woman walking down the street!! Never in a million years would I have ever done that or even thought about doing something that bold in my life!! Best day ever.

I was forced to hit on woman in the day and at first I had tons of social anxiety. It got easier as it went. I then started pulling phone numbers and it was actually becoming fun.

I learned that social status, fashion, texting and even dating all have a unique and effective way to get woman in the sack. One wrong move..you’re toast! It became the ultimate challenge.

Night game the guys had me go to clubs in Scottsdale and approach woman as well..day one I sucked, was in my head and nervous..Robbie talked to me a lot and told me what to say to woman when I approached them. He was talking to woman with ease while I was standing around like a fucking idiot without a clue what to say or do. It was fun and challenging and I realized this guy had something I truly wanted..confidence, women and he actually gives a fuck about others and their well-being including me. Felt good to have someone give al fuck about me for the first time.

I then bought a drink..had a straw in my vodka redbull drink and Maxwell said get rid of the straw..I did and ironically that made a huge difference when I was approaching woman and I began to get phone numbers.

He had me be a lead with him as my wingman and introduce him to someone forcing me to be the social butterfly I wasn’t yet. Woman saw through it, weren’t interested in me and I lacked confidence was intimidated and left him hanging with a girl..he brutalized me and said never fucking do that again. I’m here to help you!! Woke me up and I didn’t do that and learned to never leave my wingman until they are ready.

Sasha I found talking to the hottest woman I saw in the club. He told me to approach two women at a bar..I learned there is a time when to do that, how to do that and what to say to introduce myself. I was again forced to approach and failed yet it got me out of my comfort zone and then it became easier and easier to approach the rest of the night.

Day two we went to a country bar that night and I crushed!! Got 12 numbers that night. I felt like a fucking predator looking for my next female victim to entice with my charm and get her number. Was a god that couldn’t be touched or phased by anything woman did or said. I ended up making out with one chick, had a blast, and was more alive then I ever have been. Was incredible.

Also I learned cooking is important to know. I was forced to cook a meal for the guys and I hated it and didn’t know how to cook yet I was forced to learn and did it. These guys force you to face your worst fears and smash them!!

If you ever get to meet these alpha males, they will ruthlessly, yet compassionately force you to face your inner demons and build confidence. They will teach you the ways to success and if you can pass through the gates of the creepy zone of hell, the other side is a life most men only dream of.

The AZ workshop was fucking bad ass!! If I wouldn’t of gone, I would still be doing what I was doing. Thank God there are guys that give a fuck and care about me. They changed EVERYTHING!!

Cheers,

Jad

How To Become An International Sex Symbol

by Robbie 1 Comment

Screen Shot 2015-07-07 at 4.25.46 PM The biggest male sex symbols in society, James Dean, Marlon Brando, Sean Connery, Johnny Depp, etc… All have one thing in common: they are extremely solid individuals.

Not only do they have a solid foundation of who they are: their morals, world views, character traits,but are also completely sincere when projecting these things to others.

They don’t apologize for something they hold to be true if it offends you; they don’t try to be someone they’re not.

Sure, you might think “yeah, well these guys are all good looking, rich, and superstars!” Well so are thousands of other actors, athletes, and big shots, yet they don’t receive the coveted title of “Sex Symbol.”

Granted you will probably never be an internationally recognized sex symbol either, but you can be to the women you encounter. Being calm in the midst of chaos, being steadfast in your beliefs, taking action in pursuit of your desires, and setting clear boundaries are all extremely attractive traits.

The all too often talked about “nice guy syndrome” stems from a lack of the aforementioned traits.

Nice guys are quick to apologize for any possible offense they may give, rarely do the things that they want to do, instead taking on other peoples’ perceptions of what is best for them, and most importantly, avoid having controversial discussions at all costs.

Nice guys exhibit these nice guy patterns, and women become dryer than the desert five minutes into a conversation with one. The reason for this is that these guys are just uninteresting. How could one be if he doesn’t strongly believe in anything and acts in a servile manner all the time?

There is a difference between being stubborn and having an opinion. If someone crushes you with facts in an argument, and you feel that you have been swayed, don’t continue to argue to save face. Man up, say you see his point and you were wrong. It may not seem like it in the moment, but people will respect you so much more for this behavior.

You shouldn’t feel the need to defend an image you have of yourself, be sincere and say what you’re thinking.

Grounded guys don’t freak out over the stupid shit that most people do.

A girl flakes on him? Whatever, her loss.

He’s late to something? that’s unfortunate, but there’s nothing he can do about it so no need to get heated.

Something doesn’t go according to plan? Adapt, Improvise, and overcome.

It’s that simple.

If a girl sees you flip out over insignificant bs, how can she be sure you’re not going to strangle her when your relationship is going through a rough patch?

Similarly, when a cool guy sees you freak, he immediately pins you as a dork, and will want nothing to do with you.

Some early steps to take to become more grounded would be, as always, upgrading your peer group, meditation, and approaching more women to experience confrontation and rejection.

Meditation, even for 10 minutes a day, is a practice in calming the mind and observing the body. Whenever I find myself getting riled up, if I can, I will sit down, close my eyes, and clear my mind. It helps EVERY time.

Lastly, find out what you stand for.

Have interesting opinions that are not what everybody else thinks.

Know where your boundaries are, and women and men alike will begin to respect you much more.

Women Tell All: The Worst Turn Offs in the Bedroom (Part 2)

by Mullins 2 Comments

I recently polled a group of 10,000 women aged 18-35 who live in the LA-area who all belong to a private group on Facebook about what they consider to be DO’s and DON’Ts when it comes to sex.

The thread was one of the most popular I’ve seen posted, with over 300 enthusiastic responses from various women telling their tales/horror stories.

It was a hilarious read, to say the least. Keeping all anonymity, I read through all the responses and with their permission and selected the most memorable mentions to share with you, along with my own commentary.

The original posts are in italic text, my commentary in non-italic text. Trust me, you will want to read this one! There were so many responses that we have broken them up into 4 separate blog posts, and this is the second.

Read the first blog here.

We hope you enjoy part 2

xoxo,
Genevieve

Turn off: Once had a guy who wouldn’t go down on me…and then he asked me why I never seem to cum. I told him it was because he never eats me out, and he said ‘oh guess we aren’t sexually compatible cause I don’t do that. Sorry’

Wow. I’m glad this issue came up, it’s a big one. While as a guy, you might have a legitimate reason in your mind to not want to give head – keep in mind that to basically every girl this is incredibly childish and a gigantic turn off. When this happens, this is how I know I’m dealing with someone GREEN, and with very little experience…which turns me off from wanting to have sex with them entirely. Sex should be an all-encompassing, nothing-off-limits, lets explore together and who cares what happens kind of thing. I don’t think you’ll ever be able to mature sexually if you avoid it and you’ll never experience a truly good sex life without it! If the reason why you don’t want to give head to a girl is because you don’t feel like you know how to – the best method here is to JUST BE HONEST! Be open about it! Unless she’s just a straight up biatch, most girls would take this as an opportunity to teach you, in a hot way. This is good because it gives you a chance to connect, grow together. One thing I do know for sure though is, when a guy tells me he’s not into giving head it’s like a part of me knows I can never fully respect him, and that the sex won’t be good. I pretty much write him off then and there. It’s THAT important. Lastly, this is what one lady had to say about the issue, so this should give you some idea as to how important it is: “I usually can’t have an orgasm through regular sex, so if they don’t go down on me I’ve learned to just delete and move on. Too many guys and too little time to be dealing with that”. Boom.

Turn off: I currently have a guy who I will never sleep with sending me pictures of his 11-inch penis and he thinks I’m into it. I’m not.

OK – another big issue. Guys with huge dicks. Sure, who doesn’t love a big dick. However, a lot of guys think that’s the end all be all. It’s very annoying. Society trains us to believe that a humongous cock is every girl’s biggest dream/desire and that size is everything….for some girls I’m sure it is. But for most girls it is scary. I personally feel like I have a somewhat “shallow” vagina, and it’s easy to hit my “back wall” during sex regardless if dick is big or not. Hitting my back wall does not feel good, no matter how turned on I am. I could be mid-orgasm, and he comes ramming into my back wall and ruins the whole thing leaving me with a sharp pain that makes me want to double over. Some girls are built to take huge cocks; ya. But, guys with baby arms NEED to know how to work that thing and not hurt a girl. In my late teens and early 20’s especially, I can remember a lot of guys with huge penises and attitudes to match who I promise you had no idea how to use them properly and who thought having a big dick is the ticket to everything you need. In conclusion: guys with big dicks: if you put even MORE effort (than the regular guy would) into learning what women like, how our bodies work, being sensitive and gentle with your cock, understanding the in’s and out’s of a woman’s body – this is incredibly refreshing to girls and a HUGE pleasant surprise. Instead of running away scared, I’m made to feel comfortable, relaxed, and excited about what this big cock is about to offer me. In fact I’ve only fucked ONE guy with a big dick who knew how to use it properly and he’s set the standard for me, I think. So guys with big dicks: don’t think that’s your ticket to pussyville and don’t be too cocky…you’d be surprised how many girls will not be impressed by the size of your dick alone. There’s a lot more to it!

Turn off: I don’t know if you ladies like hairy men, but one guy in the past did not man-scape, and if he finished on top, he or I would be picking his chest hair off of my body.

The mental image that this procured – OMG, eewwwwwwwwwwww lol. That is so nasty lmao. This has happened to every girl, and it is a bit of a turn off. If you are a particularly hairy guy, I’d recommend keeping your hair trimmed so it’s half a centimeter long. You don’t have to shave or wax it but you gotta do something. In general, body hair is not a hot thing. We don’t like to pick it out of places, spit it out, pull it deep out of our vaginas….it’s soooooo soooo sooo gross. I’ve literally had to pull another guys long-ass pubic hair out of my vagina before and I shudder at the memory of it. I’m embarrassed right now retelling the story. This was over 10 years ago and I still remember it so vividly – the bathroom I was in, the guy, everything. That’s how bad.

Turn off: one guy would fall asleep and take over my bed diagonally and I couldn’t even lay down.

LOL, this is only OK if you’re in “relationship” status. As a first time fuck, this is annoying.

Turn off: light up a cigarette after, like INSIDE, in bed. Gross

No. Just no. Unless it’s weed, get the F outside and have some consideration lol!

Turn off: I had a guy that kept saying “hi” when we were hooking up like in Forgetting Sarah Marshall.

The sad truth is, you’ll never know if you’re doing something weird like this unless a girl you’re hooking up with tells you so! Nobody else gets to see how you act while in an intimate moment. You can easily get to a considerably old age with weird behavior, because none of the handful of girls you hooked up with bothered to tell you that you’re doing something bizarre. So, if you feel like you *might* be doing weird shit, this would be a great reason to join The Leverage Group, and ask the guys for feedback. The group thread therapy sessions are more than invaluable for information like this. You NEED human, opinionated feedback and it’s much better to be embarrassed amongst a group of guys for a few minutes than do be doing something weird like this for years, turning off every girl you ever have sex with!

Turn off: My friend had a boyfriend who would eat her out through her underwear!!! I cannot!

What? Why would he even do that? I feel like the underwear would be all water-logged WTF

Turn off: I just don’t want anyone talking to me at all during sex. Like pretty much anything someone says when we’re hooking up sounds awkward or cheesy to me.

So, the reason why I chose to include this one is because I tend to agree that less is more when you’re fucking someone for the first time. Words can feel sooooo contrived, fake and cheesy. That is why I encourage you to stray away from using verbiage when having sex with a new girl. I tend to lean towards moans, heavy breathing and panting only. Unless it’s directional from you to her (i.e. commands) – you risk sounding cheesy or silly. Unfortunately, society has ruined sex in a lot of ways for us in this day and age. Everything can feel forced and fake, and it really is hard to find your sweet spot with someone where you feel like you can be expressive in the right way without feeling cheesy or dumb. However, with the right person this all goes out the window because the connection you guys share makes things that were cheesy, meaningful. And lastly, get advice from guys in The Leverage Group. That is what they are there for!

Turn off: talking about how one night we will bring in another girl and have me watch..like..what??? IN THE MIDDLE OF IT

OK – can I just SCREAM this to all men, everywhere: UNLESS YOUR LADY HAS EXPLICITLY TOLD YOU THAT THE THOUGHT OF ANOTHER FEMALE IN BED TURNS HER ON AND SHE IS BI-CURIOUS OR BI-SEXUAL, DO NOT EVER MENTION ANOTHER GIRL AROUND HER, ESPECIALLY WHILST FUCKING HER. JESUS CHRIST YOU MORONS

Turn off: There was this guy who would dry hump me and moan nonstop “unh unh unh” whether or not he was inside me…also he was having whiskey dick problems so we decided to try again in the morning. Got no sleep because all morning the BED WAS SHAKING as he was trying to get himself hard while I laid there and pretended to be asleep. So awkward. Needless to say that never happened again!

Ok, this has so many fails…I don’t think I have to delve into whats really attractive about this situation. I think as a general rule of thumb it’s safe to say that females are ALWAYS uncomfortable around guys while they’re jacking off. It just makes us feel weird. The sound, the motion, the thought of not being able to satisfy you…just do us a fucking favor, and go elsewhere! Are you trying to make us feel weird? God damn!! It reminds me of this chronic jackker-offer who used to walk around beating it like as a nervous tick….WTF ugh, NO.

Do Looks Matter?

by Robbie 1 Comment

Guys looking to meet women often ask the question, “Do looks matter?”

It depends.

The short answer:

They matter more to girls who are young and inexperienced with dating. As women get older and look to settle down and have a family, they hardly matter at all.

The long answer:

[Begin Rant]

When most girls start dating, they target guys who they find good looking.

She may tell her friends that their high school crush, Johnny, is hot because he has a six pack, big blue eyes and great hair.

But she also omitted from her statement that he has great body language, swagger, ability to tell awesome stories, and great fashion.

Most girls bang between 25 to 75 “Johnnys” between the ages of 16 and 27 who treat her like shit, make fun of her, hit her up at 1am for bootie calls, and generally do all the things in opposition of society tells men to do.

I was never a Johnny.

I grew up with a loving mother who told me to a gentleman, level headed and do nice things for women.

My father lead by example by providing for our family, coaching my soccer teams, helping me become a straight A student, and everything else an awesome dad should do. But he told me hardly anything about what it takes to get a girl.

I had an amazing childhood, but it did not prepare me for banging hot chicks.

I followed my mom’s advice and became a typical “nice guy,” sexless and frustrated.

[End Rant]

The confusion with the “Do you looks matter” conversation is that guys actually listen to the nonsense that a lot of young chicks spew about attraction.

When a girl says a dude is hot, she’s not necessarily talking about his looks, it’s the whole package.

The more a dude look and behave like Dan Bilzerian, the more pussy he’ll get.

When a dude says a chick is hot, he’s most definitely talking about her looks and sex appeal.

The more a chick can look and behave like Kim Kardashian, the more cock she’ll get.

It’s a little easier for girls, because their hotness is based more on things that are out of their control.

As girls get older, they start to value other qualities in a man more than his looks. After fucking 50 “Johnnys” they finally want to date a nice, sweet guy that can provide for them and build a family together. In exchange, she might give him sex some of the time, when she doesn’t have a headache.

If you’re a “nice guy” I’d suggest developing Johnny’s skill set or at least understand that many Johnnys did many dirty things to your girl before you got your hands on her.

It wasn’t the same for our grandparents or parents, but this is the sad reality of modern day dating.

How many times have you seen a very attractive woman… I mean, like, super attractive…walking down the street, holding hands with a short, overweight and balding man?

It should no longer be a mystery what she sees in him.

The bottom line.

If you’re going for girls who are mature enough to see past the Johnnys of the world, looks can give you a slight boost in attracting her interest and attention, and that’s about it. They may get you a few one night stands with college chicks from Florida and Arizona, but forget any long term relationships without good social skills with high class and intelligent women.

After you start talking to a woman, she won’t care about how chiseled your face is or how big your biceps are. You suck at communication, that sexy model you were communicating with disappears.

Men Can Manipulate/Mold/Change Their Level of Attractiveness

Knowing women are mostly attracted to characteristics and qualities like leadership, confidence, humor, and other favorable traits, this is great news for us men! This means we can change our level of attractiveness to women by working on and improving these skills!

This is incredibly important to realized and implement constantly.

If attraction was based solely on looks, a lot of us would be screwed! Some of us wouldn’t have a chance at being with anybody.

Fortunately we have developed through the years as human beings with social skills. Our mental capacity to learn, evolve, adapt is influenced by whom we surround ourselves with and socialize with.

We have a way of increasing our level of social status through constant repetition. By being disciplined, we create functional habits that are socially increases through this routine over and over again.

Our commitments must be larger then our egos.

Our pride must be pushed aside at times to learn from others that have these social skills. Aka: this is were a coach, mentor or leader (Alpha Male) is in place to make this happen so we increase our social awareness at an accelerated rate than continuing to do things by ourselves and not be socially evolving.

We associate and hang around others whom are more experienced then those who are at our current primitive state of mind and communication to become socially adequate.

If you want to hang around more guys like this, read this.

By working on our personalities and working on our social traits, we can become more desirable in the eyes of more women.

Looks are not permanent They change every day.

The one that will never change is that men who have the best personalities attract the best women.

They have the confidence, leadership, social skills and charisma to be that “alpha male” that women desire.

Women will desire your personality above all else, so work on molding and creating a good one.

The Difference Between a 21-Year-Old Woman and a 31-Year-Old Woman

by Robbie Leave a Comment

A guy walks into a bar. He sees a hot 21-year-old sitting at one of the bar, and he sees a hot 31-year-old sitting at the other end. Does he use the same game on both chicks?

Answer: NO WAY!

Being good at gaming is about surveying the playing field and knowing who you’re dealing with. A 31-year-old is much harder to impress, but a 21-year-old will balk if you come on too strong. There are challenges and rewards with both.

The most put-together dudes will instantly assess the landscape and know how to approach each woman in a way that jives with her sensibilities. Essentially, he gets to choose which one he takes home because he’s mastered the subtle art of speaking to women of different stages of their lives.

The 21-Year-Old Wants to Have Fun

When women are in their early 20’s, they’re at a stage in life where they’re looking for fun. They’re still willing to date musicians, personal trainers and yoga teachers because they believe in “the dream.” They buy into the potential.

She doesn’t care if you know how to cook. She doesn’t care if you’ve held a steady job for the last 8 years. She doesn’t give a shit if you have a 401K.

She wants to have fun, feel hot and be a young know-it-all who’s got life all figured out. When you approach a chick in her early 20’s, keep it light, super entertaining and really fun. Keep her laughing.

Now, don’t get me wrong: all women want to have fun and be entertained. Only difference is a 21-year-old will make her decision based purely on how fun and entertaining you are. A 31-year-old is much more discerning and needs to see more before she’ll say ‘yes.’

The 31-Year-Old Wants to See Value

When I approach a 31-year-old at a bar, I do my best to demonstrate that I have value. If you’re reading this and wondering what your value is, it’s already too late. She is gonna see through your BS right away. She knows what’s up. She’s been in the workforce long enough to have dealt with professional adults, she’s probably making a decent living and she wants a man who can match her.

Of course she wants to laugh with you, but she needs to see your serious side as well. She will care that you’ve been in the same job for the last 8 years and she’ll be impressed that you have a 401K.

Most importantly: you can’t sell a 31-year-old on your potential. If you haven’t achieved your “dream” yet, she knows that you’re probably not going to. You can’t run “I’m gonna” game – she knows it’s bullshit.

Generally, 31-year-olds are more analytical and they’ve gotten to a point in their lives where they’re not willing to “just have fun.” They’ve got skin in the game and if you don’t live up, you’ll get knocked out in a few seconds.

Taking Things Further

When you get the differences between chicks in their 20’s and chicks in their 30’s, you’ll do things differently. A 31-year-old will care, notice and re-evaluate if your house is a mess. A 21-year-old probably has two roommates and scuzz in her sink: she doesn’t give a shit.

Understand the different priorities each age group has and you’ll be golden. Don’t fuck it up by making a rookie mistake like telling a 31-year-old you smoke pot every day.

The Lesson: Know who you’re dealing with. When you can tell the difference between a 21-year-old and a 31-year-old, you’ll be golden.

How To Pickup A Waitress

by Robbie Leave a Comment

Women that are working get hit on all the time.

You know how many idiot duchebags, after just being served by a waitress at Hooters will hand the girl their business card and say “We should… We should go for coffee sometime.”

You wouldn’t believe how often this happens. If you talk to these girls and ask them about it; it’s crazy. It might happen to someone in that situation up to fifteen times a day.

What I’ve done for years and years at a super busy bar, when I’m trying to maneuver quickly, in the typical bar scenario,

So basically I will lean in, all serious, like it is a very serious conversation. And whatever the circumstances:

“Hey so, I’m curious. How many guys a day hit on you while you’re here?” And then I’ll wait a second and then I’ll speak, or if I can see she’s going to speak I’ll wait and I’ll interrupt her and go, “Not that I actually care, what I’m mostly interested in, is how do I separate myself from the other 400 idiots a day that hit on you? I am not an idiot, you need to hurry up and figure that out so we can live happily ever after. So how do I separate myself, give me a hint. Should I stand in best in the best way?”

Now have I had great success with this?

I dunno, it works a very small amount of times, but nonetheless, it works.

And then my other one, which I’ve had with huge success is building a little bit of a friendship and hanging out a few weeks or months down the road and getting her then. And I go out of my way to never give her a millimeter of love during that process, which is very important.

Guys underestimate the power of the long game. And when I say “long game” I mean, not trying to get it in that night or the next night.

If you’re cool, you hang out, you’re laid back and you make her comfortable, there’s a good chance you’re eventually going to sleep with her.

This concept is super important.

When I say not giving her any love, I don’t mean playing some dumb pickup artist routine or neg-ing her..

No, you talk to a chick the same way you would talk to me, “Hey, what’s up? What’s going on? Yeah, okay, that’s cool. Well, see you later.”

Just talk to her like a fucking buddy, like someone you have known for a long time. You do this ten times, you know, you have to remember to stick to, “yeah, you know i’m just going to hang out with her or whatever.” You find something you both have in common.

“You play baseball, I play baseball. Oh well we will be playing at Bobby’s house Monday, you should come by.” She comes and you hang out Wednesday and then she goes to the bar with you guys, whatever, it doesn’t matter, I’m just making up a silly example.

But still, nothing changes and a few times down the road, in my last like 99 out of 100 times, I end up hooking up with them and they’ll go “You just gave me no love and you just treated me, like I didn’t think you were into me and I didn’t understand and blah blah blah…”

Which leads me to number two with problems with the long game.

One issue, my buddy who we call “The Transporter” always has is that he is amazing at pulling girls the first night. The problem is that he would bang all of them and then he would be in a situation where he couldn’t hang out with them, which would kind of hurt his overall game with all the chicks he could get.

Right? Successful people leverage their resources. Do it with women.

Don’t try to sleep with every woman you meet, make friends. Make friends with four or five pretty good looking chicks and they’ll bring you out, and even if you’re a raging fucking dork, you know, there’s all those hot chicks other raging fucking dorks could be buddies with, and they’ll feed you chicks.

They’ll go pull chicks. I don’t know how many times in my life I have watched super hot chicks go and literally just walk over and grab girls for my dorky friends.

We’re at One Oak in Manhattan and this guy got the hottest chick he’s ever gotten in his life because I had a 9 from San Francisco that flew out to Manhattan, and she went and pulled this chick for him. This super hot girl at the club was convinced that this dude was this cool ass motherfucker because he was hanging out with this super hot girl that pulled her and a couple of other girls that we pulled to the table. Now he looks like “King Ding Dong” right?

So, definitely learn to master the skill of making friends with chicks and even if you can’t make friends with super hot chicks, make friends with some 6’s and that will lead to making friends with 7’s and 8’s.

Once you get to a point, you have a lot of girl friends that are inviting you out every night.

Cheers,

Robbie

Women Tell All: The Worst Turn Offs in the Bedroom (Part 1)

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I recently polled a group of 10,000 women aged 18-35 who live in the LA-area who all belong to a private group on Facebook about what they consider to be DO’s and DON’Ts when it comes to sex.

The thread was one of the most popular I’ve seen posted, with over 300 enthusiastic responses from various women telling their tales/horror stories.

It was a hilarious read, to say the least. Keeping all anonymity, I’ve read through all the responses and with their permission have selected the most memorable mentions to share with you, along with my own commentary.

Turn Off: When they get up, get out of bed, and get dressed immediately.

Like, wtf bro. I *just* got done having sex. Can you chill for a second? Unless I’m being extremely annoying and I don’t realize it (highly unlikely) you are straight up ruining your chances of fucking me twice. Seriously.

Turn off: Once a guy asked me “On a scale of 1-10, how good was I? Or, Being asked to compare how sex was compared to other guys.

This is something a lot of guys do, believe it or not. I think they think its funny. It’s not funny. It’s awkward. Unless you’re 19 and actually need the feedback, this is not something a grown-ass-man should do.

Turn off: Don’t be that guy who has to shower right after sex. Also, please don’t be that guy that had to wash his sheets right after we had sex...while I was still naked in the bed.

Ahhh this reminds me of the Sex and the City episode where one of the girls is banging the fucked-in-the-head Catholic schoolboy who always has to shower right after sex. Let the juices simmer, you weirdo.

Turn off: When a guy goes to the kitchen and immediately eats a disgusting amount of food.

Lol, I actually feel like I could get down with this.

Turn off: I once had a guy during an intimate moment ask, “who’s pussy is that?” in a baby puppy dog kind of a voice.

Speaking in the 3rd person is never not-weird. Just FYI

Turn off: Talk about their penis size, “Sorry its not big enough.”

Don’t ever apologize for anything you can’t change about yourself, even a small dick. If you’ve gotten this far with her, WHY? Not hot. Roll with it.

Turn off: Do not tell me you have never been with a black girl before. Am I supposed to give you a high five or something?

Ok, this is just ridiculous. People are so silly. Don’t act like its some kind of novelty, please! Wtf.

Turn off: I had an ex-boyfriend that was a bodybuilder and he ALWAYS had this stench to his dick…like even fresh out the shower, it made me so nauseous. I feel like it used to stick me for days after.

I had this once before with a guy who was a surfer! I guess it’s not like you’d be able to tell if your stench was intensely nauseating to the girl you’re fucking, but in general just be on top of your hygiene. And that primarily includes the way your ballsack region smells.

TURN OFF: I am sleeping with this guy. Sex is GREAT, he definitely knows how to please a woman. But here is the down side. He likes to pull out ahead of time and than sit over my face and have me lick his gouch while he jacks off and cums over my body. Not the biggest fan of it and not the greatest view…and most importantly if his ass smells like shit, which makes me gag. I eventually had to tell him that position was uncomfortable for me.

OK – this one is epic. I’m soooo glad this came up. This could actually be HOT if it weren’t for the fact that his ass smelled like shit! In general, I feel like guys need to step up their ass-hygene game. Like seriously, wash that shit out with a soapy washcoth, twice to three times in the shower. You should literally be able to take your finger and press it up against your butthole after washing, rub it around a little, then smell your finger and not have your finger smell like shit. If you have a smell-free asshole, think of all the sexual positions you could do! I think the best sex is dirty, weird, random, sloppy, messy…and you want to be prepared for that. Also, take a beard and mustache trimmer to your butthole and trim off the excess butthole fuzz. Your pubes and butthole hair should be trimmed AT ALL TIMES. NO girl wants to get pubes in her mouth after sucking you off. And on that note, I’m going to give you a bit of gold information. If you wax your balls so that they are baby-smooth, girls will literally not be able to stop touching/licking them. It’s like crack for girls. Take care of it boyz!!!! It might be awkward to read this, but this stuff is happening in real life and it needs to be STOPPED. For the love of God, PLEASE step up your asshole hygiene.

Turn off: Sneaking it up my ass after I had an orgasm thinking I wouldn’t notice.

Anal is not a game, boys. A dick in the ass is going to hurt very badly unless the asshole is literally massaged open with fingers for a few minutes, and she’s totally relaxed. Even if she did just have an orgasm, it’s not going to cover up the feeling of muscles being torn! Give the ASS the respect it deserves, or you’re never gonna get it!

Avoid the Over-Gaming Trap: How to Know When to Pull Back

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There’s an art to knowing when to game and when to push back. Too often I see cool dudes hitting it off with a girl at a bar, she’s really into him, and he just doesn’t know when to transition to the next phase of the interaction.

Are you guilty of over-gaming?

What is Over-Gaming?

I see over-gaming all the time, but one recent experience comes to mind as especially aggravating. I almost broke my cell phone over this guy’s head because it was so annoying.

The dude was just trying too hard to be funny; he was pushing everything too much. In this case, he was speaking to what was a clearly well educated, slightly snobby French-Moroccan doctor. She was into it at first, until he started making penis jokes.

There’s a time to make penis jokes and a time to not make penis jokes. Around a 21-year-old party girl, the penis joke might be funny. A snobby French-Moroccan doctor? Not so much.

Intermediate Problems

Generally speaking, the problem of over-gaming is an intermediate problem. It’s something I experienced when I was doing a lot of banter and flirting. I would take it too far because I didn’t know when to shut up and shift gears.

To be clear, I’m not talking about role-playing. I spent hours at a bar once with a girl I had just met role-playing that we were husband and wife. She called me Jefferson and I called her Chloe – it was great and we laughed our asses off.

I’m talking about the funny, flirty, witty conversation that should really only last for the first few minutes before you transition into something a little more intense.

Know When to Pull Back

Once you’re in, stop gaming. One of my buddies hit it off with a girl in a bar not too long ago. They didn’t sleep together but they exchanged numbers with the intention of hanging out again later.

Fast-forward three days. She texts him a message that says, “Hey, are you going out tonight?”

At this point, it would be a mistake to continue gaming her. She’s already interested. If you keep gaming her, it will seem desperate and lame and she’ll lose interest instantly. He responded, “Come meet me. I’m going to Renee’s.”

He knows that he’s golden. His only job at this point is to not screw it up, so he goes into pre-event defense and plays it neutral. Why? Because she’s pursuing him, and if he doesn’t act like an idiot, he’ll have a great night that could potentially end in sex.

The Lesson: When she starts pursuing you, it’s time to stop gaming. If you don’t, it will push her away. Know when to stop and you’ll see results.

How to Transition a Girl Back to Your Place Without Looking Like a Douche

by Robbie Leave a Comment

I see a lot of guys struggling with how to convert a great opening conversation with a girl into a longer interaction and finally into an invitation to come back home. An invitation that isn’t instantly rejected, that is.

Knowing how to bring girls back to your place for sex consistently is an art and a science. There are several skills and tactics involved that you should start practicing right away.

Give Her a Reason

First you need to know that most girls are very concerned about being perceived as slutty. Unfortunately societal pressure tells them that sleeping with a guy on the first few dates is “bad,” “trashy” or just straight up makes them a tramp.

But know this: if your date is going well, chances are, she wants to sleep with you. So your job is to give her a reason other than sex for her to come back to your place.

When I was 17, my photo was printed in a golf book written by Tiger Woods’ golf coach. I still have that book at my apartment. After I’ve had a few drinks with a girl on a date, I’ll say, “Hey, you have to come back to my place. I want to show you this book I was in.”

She always says yes.

I know we’re gonna have sex. She knows that we’re gonna have sex. But obviously, if I had said, “Hey, want to come back to my place and fuck?” she would have said no. She has to if she wants to preserve her status as a non-slut.

It doesn’t matter what the invitation is. You could say, “Hey, come over to see my new shirt/ancient weapon collection/the new Nordstrom catalogue” and if she likes you, she’ll say yes.

Leading is Everything

I talk a lot about being able to lead a girl on a date. This basically means that you’re the one in charge, you choose where you’ll go, when you’ll go and how you’ll go. Don’t ask her “if it’s okay.” Girls actually like it when a dude takes over and leads the date (in fact, if you can’t lead, the date will end pretty quickly).

A buddy of mine never asks girls if they want to go back. He waits until she’s feeling good, maybe she’s had a couple drinks and they’re laughing a lot, and then he just starts guiding her back in the direction of his apartment (if they’re close enough to walk) or he leads her to a cabstand so they can catch a ride back.

This works really well in cities like New York or Hollywood, but it’s a little trickier if you’re in Vegas and you want to take a girl back to your hotel room. Generally, don’t ask permission, just start guiding her back to your place and if she likes you she’ll go along with it.

Point Out the Absurdity

Occasionally a girl will be like, “Oh, we’re at your house…” as a way of testing you. There might be a millimeter of resistance. If that happens, I say, “Hey, don’t make me feel like a creeper because I want to keep hanging out. Do you want to keep having fun or do you want to sit on the street and flip a coin?”

Or if she says “Where are we going?” I’ll respond with “Back to my place, I promise to be at least an 86% gentleman.”

If a girl has made it this far with you, she wants to keep hanging out. Point out how absurd it is that she’s actually pretending she doesn’t want to fool around. She’ll laugh, and you take her inside.