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Hot Chicks are Good for Business

Men love being in the company of beautiful women. It just makes everything that much more fun and interesting.

You will never hear a guy say, “Dude, I’m out, I just don’t want to hang out with more cute girls.”

Having hot chicks around brings me more hot chicks, more important guys, better girlfriends and better business opportunities. The more friends – hot, cool friends – I keep in my company, the higher I stand socially, and the more I enjoy my life.

Whatever line of business you’re currently in, making friends with cute chicks and hanging out with them regularly will always improve business (did she put you in the Friend Zone? Stop bitching about it and read THIS). If I’m casually talking to a potential business associate at the bar and I have a cute girl with me, odds are he will be much more willing to listen to me for three hours so long as I have that girl near me.

See how it works?

The Lesson: Make friends with cute girls and hang out with them a lot. If you stop being afraid of the friend zone, you’ll become the dude other dudes want to know.

Does Your Shirt Fit?

by Robbie 1 Comment

What size shirt are you wearing right now? I’d be willing to bet that it’s too big and doesn’t flatter you at all.

How do I know that? Because 95% of all guys wear dorky clothes that make them look like they don’t have a clue how to take care of themselves (let alone lead an interaction with a woman).

Dressing well is extremely important to women. A cute girl will look you up and down and decide in two seconds whether you’re worth her time and energy simply based on your choice of apparel (a crew neck in the middle of winter? Please).

One thing you can do right away is buy shirts that actually fit. Studies have shown that women are most attracted to men with broad shoulders; the ideal shoulder to waist ration is 1.6:1.

Even if you don’t have those God-given proportions naturally, you can still trick the eye by wearing tighter clothing that draws attention to your shoulders, making them look bigger. Most men who are generally fit (read: no pot belly) should probably be wearing a size “small” t-shirt.

Why? Because it stretches slightly across the chest and makes you appear larger in your upper body.

The Lesson: Throw away your shirts that are too big. Buy shit that fits. If you need help, click HERE for specific wardrobe tips.

Get personalized, one-on-one coaching in the Inner Confidence Leverage Program. Dude, if you’re wearing the wrong t-shirt now, it’s not gonna get any better on its own.

How to Use the Friend Zone to Your Advantage

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Guys complain to me all the time that they’ve been confined to the friend zone. They think they should be able to bang every girl they meet, and when they get pushed to the friend zone, they whine about it instead of strategically using it to their advantage.

Dudes: STOP COMPLAINING ABOUT THE FRIEND ZONE.

Here’s the thing, cute chicks hang around cute chicks. If some girl won’t sleep with you but she invites you out with her girls and you become friends, use that to your advantage.

You roll into some bar with six cute girl friends and you’re golden. Not only does this seriously raise your social value to the other hot girls that you’ll meet at the bar, but cool dudes will want to know you who are, too. They’ll want to befriend you, hang out with you, and do business with you.

The Lesson: Don’t try to bang every chick you meet. Meet girls, be cool and make friends. Those chicks will lead to more chicks and those chicks will lead to even more.

How to Get Over the Pain of Rejection

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Every man in the world has experienced being rejected by a woman (or if he hasn’t, he’s too scared to talk to a woman in the first place). I’ve felt it. My buddies have felt it. I know you’ve felt it otherwise you wouldn’t be reading this article.

There’s no doubt about it, getting a “no” totally sucks. It hurts. You might start thinking, “God, I suck. I’m horrible with women…” and that makes things even worse.

Fortunately, there’s a solution and you don’t have to live with the pain of rejection forever.

Making the Transition

All my clients come to me because they’re sick of being rejected. They want to get some wins under their belt. The great thing is, when you put yourself out there and actually do the work of bettering yourself, you can get to a point where getting rejected doesn’t totally knock you out.

You can get so good at handling people that, even if someone says “no” or blows you off, your attitude is, “Whatever. Next!” instead of, “I suck, my life is horrible.”

Having game is about attitude, skillset and yeah, inner confidence.

No one can tell you when you will feel pain and when you won’t. I couldn’t say, “You’ll stop feeling pain when you bang five supermodels.” Maybe you’ll still feel pain at that point, maybe not.

The pain is coming from within you, so something inside of you needs to shift. The outside results can certainly help speed the process, but ultimately, you’ve got to be able to recognize when you feel pain and let yourself move through it.

The Pain Always Shows

It’s not necessarily a bad thing to experience pain in this area, but it does show. My coaches can always tell when a guy is feeling pain versus when he’s feeling confident and calm; it is revealed in the way he carries himself. The way he moves, the way he operates in social situations.

Working through the pain is important if you truly want to experience success with women. Why? Because people want to hang out with other people that make them feel good. People who are in pain all the time, even when things are fine and we’re just chillin at the bar, basically suck to hang out with.

Get Over the Pain by Taking Action

To this day, I still sometimes feel pain if a girl flakes on me or if I have a bad run. It’s not anything like it used to be – there are no thoughts running through my head like, “God, I’m such a loser.” But it will suck, and it stings.

The solution is to take action. I’ll feel the pain for a minute, and then I’ll become even more determined to stack up some wins to feel great again. That means texting girls, approaching them, asking them out, and having sex.

I know for sure that if I’m not getting the results I want, it all has to do with a lack of input. I’m not doing enough to get there – it’s not because my skills aren’t good enough, it’s because I’m not putting the time in.

When you feel pain, take a deep breath. Feel it for a moment but don’t dwell on it. Immediately pinpoint an action you can take that will get you closer to what you want, and finally, take a moment to laugh at the situation – the easiest way for me to tell the difference between someone who is feeling pain and someone who isn’t is whether or not they’re willing to laugh at themselves.

The Lesson: Pain is normal, but if you want to be wildly successful with women, you have to be willing to do the work.

Want to Hook Up with Her? Give it 7 Hours and You’re Usually Golden

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One of my clients met a girl a while back who he really liked. She liked him too, and they texted back and forth for a while before setting up a date (side note: if you’re spending days texting girls and not meeting up with them, you suck at text game and you need THIS).

He picks her up at 5:00 pm, and they spend the next few hours bouncing from location to location, getting to know each other, and making out. This girl didn’t have a job, she was fresh out of college and living with her parents.

At 11:00 pm, six hours later, he took her home. And left her there. BAD MOVE.

The Magical 7 Hour Bang Rule

I couldn’t believe it when he told me this story. He had a great date that was six hours long – but, like an idiot, he ignored the Magical 7 Hour Bang Rule (or he didn’t know about it) and completely blew his chance at sleeping with her on the first date.

Oh, YOU don’t know about the Magical 7 Hour Bang Rule, either!?

Okay, here it is, and this is pretty important: girls are 10,000 times more likely to sleep with you after seven hours. Once they’ve spent seven hours with you, they feel like they know you and they’re ready to bang.

Think about it: all your hookups, all your one night stands, any sex that happened on the first date – it was all times when you met her at 9 and slept with her at 4 am the next morning. Seven hours.

The Magical 7 Hour Bang Rule doesn’t have to be all at once, either. Maybe your first date is three hours, the second date is four hours, and BAM. Done deal.

In other words, this client of mine, had he only kept this girl out for one more hour, would have had it in the bag.

The Perfect First Date

Alright, so what should this guy have done? That’s easy. Here’s the breakdown…

5:00 pm, he picks her up from wherever and takes her out. For the next seven hours, his job is now to continue the date and take her from location to location which creates a greater sense of intimacy and familiarity.

I don’t care if you’re bar hopping, I don’t care if you’re at the mall and walking from store to store, I don’t care if you’re at a nursing home visiting all the different old people in their rooms, whatever. Just make sure you’re on the move and connecting over an experience.

At 11:00 pm (seven hours later), you take her back to the house and make out a little bit. It’s only 11 pm. It’s not like it’s early.

By 1:00 am you’re watching some Youtube videos, laughing, making out some more. By now you’ve been with the girl for ten hours – she’s going to sleep with you.

And if she sleeps with you, and you’re really good in bed, she’s yours. Because girls don’t just abandon dudes they sleep with on the first date and risk adding up numbers. That’s just the way it goes.

The Lesson: Know the Magical 7 Hour Bang Rule. Live by it.

Review of the IC Introductory Workshop

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We recently had 5 new clients join our Leverage Program from the Phoenix area.

I always love when this happens because it creates a satellite community within our group and because the guys are local, it’s very easy for them to spend time together, wing each other, and push each other to grow faster.

And because all of these guys were at pretty similar levels when it came to meeting women, I decided to drive out to Phoenix for the weekend with a few of the moderators to get these guys started off on the right foot.

(Review of The Phoenix Workshop – By Jad Morris)

I’m at home..bored..alone..playing video games and watching Netflix..fantasizing about woman I wish I could be with.

Watch some porn at night and masturbating to the women of my dreams..my house is a fucking pigsty… I am eating like shit..fat..overweight and dressed like an idiot…zero confidence and hating my life with no genuine friends or social skills.

How many of you can relate to what I’m taking about? May be you’re in a similar situation?

Enter Robbie, Sasha, Maxwell, Tyler and Cameron. These alpha males saved my life from utter failure and hopeless chances of ever having solid inner confidence in what’s needed to be a fucking beast with woman.

I get to the workshop not having a clue what to expect. Instantly I wanted what these guys had. Charm, charisma, confidence and an “I don’t give a fuck” attitude and most of all…the hottest women I’ve ever laid eyes on on a regular basis day after day with ease!!

They have me do Day game approaches..recording my interactions with woman with a microphone and video camera. These guys reviewed it and I got feedback. I failed miserably and everyone laughed about it including myself and underneath I was like what a fucking pathetic loser I am.

Then they showed me their first interactions and encounters with woman and they were just as bad and I thought to myself..ok if these guys can do it, so can I.

I learned about approaching woman in many different scenarios with the men.. What to say, my body posture, even the speed of which I talk. When I say it, how I say it..all of it matters.

Tyler and Cameron forced me to approach random woman in the mall. Was difficult..I was chasing women all over the place..they even made me run out of a car and approach a woman walking down the street!! Never in a million years would I have ever done that or even thought about doing something that bold in my life!! Best day ever.

I was forced to hit on woman in the day and at first I had tons of social anxiety. It got easier as it went. I then started pulling phone numbers and it was actually becoming fun.

I learned that social status, fashion, texting and even dating all have a unique and effective way to get woman in the sack. One wrong move..you’re toast! It became the ultimate challenge.

Night game the guys had me go to clubs in Scottsdale and approach woman as well..day one I sucked, was in my head and nervous..Robbie talked to me a lot and told me what to say to woman when I approached them. He was talking to woman with ease while I was standing around like a fucking idiot without a clue what to say or do. It was fun and challenging and I realized this guy had something I truly wanted..confidence, women and he actually gives a fuck about others and their well-being including me. Felt good to have someone give al fuck about me for the first time.

I then bought a drink..had a straw in my vodka redbull drink and Maxwell said get rid of the straw..I did and ironically that made a huge difference when I was approaching woman and I began to get phone numbers.

He had me be a lead with him as my wingman and introduce him to someone forcing me to be the social butterfly I wasn’t yet. Woman saw through it, weren’t interested in me and I lacked confidence was intimidated and left him hanging with a girl..he brutalized me and said never fucking do that again. I’m here to help you!! Woke me up and I didn’t do that and learned to never leave my wingman until they are ready.

Sasha I found talking to the hottest woman I saw in the club. He told me to approach two women at a bar..I learned there is a time when to do that, how to do that and what to say to introduce myself. I was again forced to approach and failed yet it got me out of my comfort zone and then it became easier and easier to approach the rest of the night.

Day two we went to a country bar that night and I crushed!! Got 12 numbers that night. I felt like a fucking predator looking for my next female victim to entice with my charm and get her number. Was a god that couldn’t be touched or phased by anything woman did or said. I ended up making out with one chick, had a blast, and was more alive then I ever have been. Was incredible.

Also I learned cooking is important to know. I was forced to cook a meal for the guys and I hated it and didn’t know how to cook yet I was forced to learn and did it. These guys force you to face your worst fears and smash them!!

If you ever get to meet these alpha males, they will ruthlessly, yet compassionately force you to face your inner demons and build confidence. They will teach you the ways to success and if you can pass through the gates of the creepy zone of hell, the other side is a life most men only dream of.

The AZ workshop was fucking bad ass!! If I wouldn’t of gone, I would still be doing what I was doing. Thank God there are guys that give a fuck and care about me. They changed EVERYTHING!!

Cheers,

Jad

How To Become An International Sex Symbol

by Robbie 1 Comment

Screen Shot 2015-07-07 at 4.25.46 PM The biggest male sex symbols in society, James Dean, Marlon Brando, Sean Connery, Johnny Depp, etc… All have one thing in common: they are extremely solid individuals.

Not only do they have a solid foundation of who they are: their morals, world views, character traits,but are also completely sincere when projecting these things to others.

They don’t apologize for something they hold to be true if it offends you; they don’t try to be someone they’re not.

Sure, you might think “yeah, well these guys are all good looking, rich, and superstars!” Well so are thousands of other actors, athletes, and big shots, yet they don’t receive the coveted title of “Sex Symbol.”

Granted you will probably never be an internationally recognized sex symbol either, but you can be to the women you encounter. Being calm in the midst of chaos, being steadfast in your beliefs, taking action in pursuit of your desires, and setting clear boundaries are all extremely attractive traits.

The all too often talked about “nice guy syndrome” stems from a lack of the aforementioned traits.

Nice guys are quick to apologize for any possible offense they may give, rarely do the things that they want to do, instead taking on other peoples’ perceptions of what is best for them, and most importantly, avoid having controversial discussions at all costs.

Nice guys exhibit these nice guy patterns, and women become dryer than the desert five minutes into a conversation with one. The reason for this is that these guys are just uninteresting. How could one be if he doesn’t strongly believe in anything and acts in a servile manner all the time?

There is a difference between being stubborn and having an opinion. If someone crushes you with facts in an argument, and you feel that you have been swayed, don’t continue to argue to save face. Man up, say you see his point and you were wrong. It may not seem like it in the moment, but people will respect you so much more for this behavior.

You shouldn’t feel the need to defend an image you have of yourself, be sincere and say what you’re thinking.

Grounded guys don’t freak out over the stupid shit that most people do.

A girl flakes on him? Whatever, her loss.

He’s late to something? that’s unfortunate, but there’s nothing he can do about it so no need to get heated.

Something doesn’t go according to plan? Adapt, Improvise, and overcome.

It’s that simple.

If a girl sees you flip out over insignificant bs, how can she be sure you’re not going to strangle her when your relationship is going through a rough patch?

Similarly, when a cool guy sees you freak, he immediately pins you as a dork, and will want nothing to do with you.

Some early steps to take to become more grounded would be, as always, upgrading your peer group, meditation, and approaching more women to experience confrontation and rejection.

Meditation, even for 10 minutes a day, is a practice in calming the mind and observing the body. Whenever I find myself getting riled up, if I can, I will sit down, close my eyes, and clear my mind. It helps EVERY time.

Lastly, find out what you stand for.

Have interesting opinions that are not what everybody else thinks.

Know where your boundaries are, and women and men alike will begin to respect you much more.

The Difference Between a 21-Year-Old Woman and a 31-Year-Old Woman

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A guy walks into a bar. He sees a hot 21-year-old sitting at one of the bar, and he sees a hot 31-year-old sitting at the other end. Does he use the same game on both chicks?

Answer: NO WAY!

Being good at gaming is about surveying the playing field and knowing who you’re dealing with. A 31-year-old is much harder to impress, but a 21-year-old will balk if you come on too strong. There are challenges and rewards with both.

The most put-together dudes will instantly assess the landscape and know how to approach each woman in a way that jives with her sensibilities. Essentially, he gets to choose which one he takes home because he’s mastered the subtle art of speaking to women of different stages of their lives.

The 21-Year-Old Wants to Have Fun

When women are in their early 20’s, they’re at a stage in life where they’re looking for fun. They’re still willing to date musicians, personal trainers and yoga teachers because they believe in “the dream.” They buy into the potential.

She doesn’t care if you know how to cook. She doesn’t care if you’ve held a steady job for the last 8 years. She doesn’t give a shit if you have a 401K.

She wants to have fun, feel hot and be a young know-it-all who’s got life all figured out. When you approach a chick in her early 20’s, keep it light, super entertaining and really fun. Keep her laughing.

Now, don’t get me wrong: all women want to have fun and be entertained. Only difference is a 21-year-old will make her decision based purely on how fun and entertaining you are. A 31-year-old is much more discerning and needs to see more before she’ll say ‘yes.’

The 31-Year-Old Wants to See Value

When I approach a 31-year-old at a bar, I do my best to demonstrate that I have value. If you’re reading this and wondering what your value is, it’s already too late. She is gonna see through your BS right away. She knows what’s up. She’s been in the workforce long enough to have dealt with professional adults, she’s probably making a decent living and she wants a man who can match her.

Of course she wants to laugh with you, but she needs to see your serious side as well. She will care that you’ve been in the same job for the last 8 years and she’ll be impressed that you have a 401K.

Most importantly: you can’t sell a 31-year-old on your potential. If you haven’t achieved your “dream” yet, she knows that you’re probably not going to. You can’t run “I’m gonna” game – she knows it’s bullshit.

Generally, 31-year-olds are more analytical and they’ve gotten to a point in their lives where they’re not willing to “just have fun.” They’ve got skin in the game and if you don’t live up, you’ll get knocked out in a few seconds.

Taking Things Further

When you get the differences between chicks in their 20’s and chicks in their 30’s, you’ll do things differently. A 31-year-old will care, notice and re-evaluate if your house is a mess. A 21-year-old probably has two roommates and scuzz in her sink: she doesn’t give a shit.

Understand the different priorities each age group has and you’ll be golden. Don’t fuck it up by making a rookie mistake like telling a 31-year-old you smoke pot every day.

The Lesson: Know who you’re dealing with. When you can tell the difference between a 21-year-old and a 31-year-old, you’ll be golden.

Avoid the Over-Gaming Trap: How to Know When to Pull Back

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There’s an art to knowing when to game and when to push back. Too often I see cool dudes hitting it off with a girl at a bar, she’s really into him, and he just doesn’t know when to transition to the next phase of the interaction.

Are you guilty of over-gaming?

What is Over-Gaming?

I see over-gaming all the time, but one recent experience comes to mind as especially aggravating. I almost broke my cell phone over this guy’s head because it was so annoying.

The dude was just trying too hard to be funny; he was pushing everything too much. In this case, he was speaking to what was a clearly well educated, slightly snobby French-Moroccan doctor. She was into it at first, until he started making penis jokes.

There’s a time to make penis jokes and a time to not make penis jokes. Around a 21-year-old party girl, the penis joke might be funny. A snobby French-Moroccan doctor? Not so much.

Intermediate Problems

Generally speaking, the problem of over-gaming is an intermediate problem. It’s something I experienced when I was doing a lot of banter and flirting. I would take it too far because I didn’t know when to shut up and shift gears.

To be clear, I’m not talking about role-playing. I spent hours at a bar once with a girl I had just met role-playing that we were husband and wife. She called me Jefferson and I called her Chloe – it was great and we laughed our asses off.

I’m talking about the funny, flirty, witty conversation that should really only last for the first few minutes before you transition into something a little more intense.

Know When to Pull Back

Once you’re in, stop gaming. One of my buddies hit it off with a girl in a bar not too long ago. They didn’t sleep together but they exchanged numbers with the intention of hanging out again later.

Fast-forward three days. She texts him a message that says, “Hey, are you going out tonight?”

At this point, it would be a mistake to continue gaming her. She’s already interested. If you keep gaming her, it will seem desperate and lame and she’ll lose interest instantly. He responded, “Come meet me. I’m going to Renee’s.”

He knows that he’s golden. His only job at this point is to not screw it up, so he goes into pre-event defense and plays it neutral. Why? Because she’s pursuing him, and if he doesn’t act like an idiot, he’ll have a great night that could potentially end in sex.

The Lesson: When she starts pursuing you, it’s time to stop gaming. If you don’t, it will push her away. Know when to stop and you’ll see results.

How to Transition a Girl Back to Your Place Without Looking Like a Douche

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I see a lot of guys struggling with how to convert a great opening conversation with a girl into a longer interaction and finally into an invitation to come back home. An invitation that isn’t instantly rejected, that is.

Knowing how to bring girls back to your place for sex consistently is an art and a science. There are several skills and tactics involved that you should start practicing right away.

Give Her a Reason

First you need to know that most girls are very concerned about being perceived as slutty. Unfortunately societal pressure tells them that sleeping with a guy on the first few dates is “bad,” “trashy” or just straight up makes them a tramp.

But know this: if your date is going well, chances are, she wants to sleep with you. So your job is to give her a reason other than sex for her to come back to your place.

When I was 17, my photo was printed in a golf book written by Tiger Woods’ golf coach. I still have that book at my apartment. After I’ve had a few drinks with a girl on a date, I’ll say, “Hey, you have to come back to my place. I want to show you this book I was in.”

She always says yes.

I know we’re gonna have sex. She knows that we’re gonna have sex. But obviously, if I had said, “Hey, want to come back to my place and fuck?” she would have said no. She has to if she wants to preserve her status as a non-slut.

It doesn’t matter what the invitation is. You could say, “Hey, come over to see my new shirt/ancient weapon collection/the new Nordstrom catalogue” and if she likes you, she’ll say yes.

Leading is Everything

I talk a lot about being able to lead a girl on a date. This basically means that you’re the one in charge, you choose where you’ll go, when you’ll go and how you’ll go. Don’t ask her “if it’s okay.” Girls actually like it when a dude takes over and leads the date (in fact, if you can’t lead, the date will end pretty quickly).

A buddy of mine never asks girls if they want to go back. He waits until she’s feeling good, maybe she’s had a couple drinks and they’re laughing a lot, and then he just starts guiding her back in the direction of his apartment (if they’re close enough to walk) or he leads her to a cabstand so they can catch a ride back.

This works really well in cities like New York or Hollywood, but it’s a little trickier if you’re in Vegas and you want to take a girl back to your hotel room. Generally, don’t ask permission, just start guiding her back to your place and if she likes you she’ll go along with it.

Point Out the Absurdity

Occasionally a girl will be like, “Oh, we’re at your house…” as a way of testing you. There might be a millimeter of resistance. If that happens, I say, “Hey, don’t make me feel like a creeper because I want to keep hanging out. Do you want to keep having fun or do you want to sit on the street and flip a coin?”

Or if she says “Where are we going?” I’ll respond with “Back to my place, I promise to be at least an 86% gentleman.”

If a girl has made it this far with you, she wants to keep hanging out. Point out how absurd it is that she’s actually pretending she doesn’t want to fool around. She’ll laugh, and you take her inside.