I've found from working with hundreds of clients that motivation is NOT what drives behavior change. Trying to change too many habits at once more often than not leads to failure, discouragement, and not trying again. Habits are more important than discipline or willpower. Our society teaches us to view life improvement in a way that is very black and white. We love all or nothing thinking: either I’m going to stick perfectly to my new diet, or it’s not worth trying. People see anything short of radical life change in every domain as a failure, when in reality, we improve our lives by … [Read more...]
Who You Are Is What You Get
It's simple: develop traits that women find attractive, learn how to show those traits in a socially intelligent way, and build a social lifestyle. That's how you attract women into your life. It's how authenticity becomes one of the most attractive traits you can develop. It's not about learning tactics and techniques to seduce women. It's about learning to become someone that women want to meet. The emotional patterns in your life will dictate the kinds of women you attract. The behaviors you practice regularly will define the kinds of women you meet. For example, take … [Read more...]
Texting: The Fundamentals Of Communicating With Women
It's finally here! The long-awaited video of Robbie Kramer's latest 21 Convention speech is up. … [Read more...]
When You’re Objective, You Take More Risks
One of the most effective actions you can take to improve your life is developing your ability to think objectively. Most people think emotionally. Yes, this includes men, who often assume they are rational and impervious to the effects of emotions on their thinking. Men tend to have blind spots in this area just as much as women. People usually look at their situation, whatever it may be, come up with one possible outcome, and only focus on that outcome happening. Emotions drive the estimate of the outcome occurring. This human tendency is the reason why the mainstream news media … [Read more...]
Dating With Social Anxiety
I've said before that I don't care about approach anxiety. But when does anxiety become a real problem? When social anxiety becomes a problem, it’s because it turns into more than just a feeling of anxiety in social situations (like approach anxiety). If that's all it was, then you could just tough out the uncomfortable feeling and force yourself be social, like what most people do when they have to speak in public. The reason that social anxiety is a bigger problem is because it changes your actions and behaviors: you stop chasing your goals in order to avoid feeling anxious. What is … [Read more...]
Inner Confidence on Elite Daily – 3 Ways To Get Instantly Better At Meeting Women In Public
In the beginning, we all suck at meeting women in public. You will likely not be an exception. Approaching women with no introduction can feel really overwhelming and intimidating to a lot of dudes. But when you get good at it, your dating and sex life will improve big time. Why? Because being unafraid in the face of rejection is really f*cking hot, and girls dig it. You’re Going To Hate This, But Do It Anyway... (read more) … [Read more...]
“Bring It” Podcast Interview w/ Robbie Kramer
A lot of my content is centered around dating and relationships but this episode is very geared towards career advice, setting up a remote working situation to avoid the 9 to 5 and get out of the rat race, and some other cool points on choosing business partners. I was interview by a very inspiring young dude named YL Savitskiy on his podcast, Bring It. Topics Include: On building a remote lifestyle [2:10] How to developing personality traits [7:58] On balancing fun and doing business [14:22] On overcoming rejection [18:11] On the basics of networking [23:13] Robbie’s … [Read more...]
Inner Confidence on Elite Daily: How To Avoid Hard Feelings & Make A Seamless Exit After A One Night Stand
Tell me if you can relate: You and your buddies go to your favorite bar. You see a cute woman and say hello. The two of you hit it off, start making out and end up back at your place for a night of fun. The next morning, you wake up with her arm slung across your chest, and you think, last night was awesome, but I got sh*t to do. How can I get out of this without looking like a total douche? This situation used to completely throw me off. (And believe me, if you think she’s not at least a little bit concerned about how to handle the situation, you’re wrong!) Read the rest of the … [Read more...]
Success Is Closer Than You Think
Ever hear the saying don't let the perfect be the enemy of the good? Nowhere is this more true than when you’re learning how to be better with women. You don’t have to be perfect, you just have to be good enough. A lot of the advice out there is aiming at perfection. And this is counterproductive for improving your skills and improving your life. Because here’s the thing: guys today have set the bar very low. Ask any woman about her frustrations with dating, and she’ll tell you that most guys are terrible: They don’t have the empathy to be able to picture what a woman actually wants … [Read more...]
Hot Chicks are Good for Business
Men love being in the company of beautiful women. It just makes everything that much more fun and interesting. You will never hear a guy say, “Dude, I’m out, I just don’t want to hang out with more cute girls.” Having hot chicks around brings me more hot chicks, more important guys, better girlfriends and better business opportunities. The more friends – hot, cool friends – I keep in my company, the higher I stand socially, and the more I enjoy my life. Whatever line of business you’re currently in, making friends with cute chicks and hanging out with them regularly will always … [Read more...]
