Say what?! Read on, and I’ll explain.
Remember – in an exchange with a random girl you must provide some value. There are millions of different ways to do this- jokes, fashion, long stares, being good looking, amazing body language, interesting conversation, mentoring, etc.
I like to think of a new female exchange like this- she is sort of like a rich potential investor. Why would a Centi-Millionaire ($100m+) want to talk to you (or me)? Everyone wants their time, attention, and resources.
You need to have something cool to offer. Walking up and saying “I’m bored, talk to me” is a zero because what would an investor say? “F*ck yourself and watch a movie if you are bored.”
If you walked up and made him laugh he’ll engage you. If you offered interesting or fun/happy conversation he’d probably keep talking to you. If it turns out that you are selling something valuable he’ll probably invest.
To relate this to women- you need to capture her attention and provide some value out of the gate. A good laugh or fun/cute/cool/happy conversation provides that. You can transition into meaningful conversation and if that’s solid enough she’ll probably invest in you (i.e. a telephone number or date).
If your body language sucks- she is not buying. If your jokes, your stories or the conversation you provide suck, she is not buying. Everyone wants her vajayjay. Almost every man on this planet wants it- why should she give it to you?! If you can’t answer that, then you need to come up with ways of ‘faking it ’til you make it’. If you can answer that, then you need to exude and communicate these things in a confident way.
I’m sure you think you have 12,000 awesome qualities and girls should know how awesome you are, they should know what they are missing. EFFFF THAT. Most guys have 12,000 awesome things and women are capable of pattern recognition. They know what they are going to get with a guy who has X body language vs Y body language. They know what they like in a guy and your qualities may not matter to them. Learn to adapt and deliver a product that people are buying.
Be engaging, fun, and interesting. Provide value and give them a reason to want to be around you. Make them feel good. When I work with my clients in the VIP Private Coaching Program, I make it mandatory that they go through a conversation skills drill with me over the phone where we role play a conversation they would have with a girl. I face palm every single time when they wonder why girls aren’t interested in them after I hear how boring and uninteresting their conversations are with me. Sometimes I even record the calls and make them listen to it themselves- and then they’re like “oh, I see what you mean now.” Smh. But despite the way they cringe, they become motivated to fix it because to be an engaging conversationalist is a learnable skill.