My friend Wesley, over at iManscape. wrote an article around that subject that focuses on what women really think of men with beards. He broke down information from many studies into an easy to read article covering the topic and threw in some tips for the men. Some of the data might surprise you... https://imanscape.com/what-women-think-about-beards/ … [Read more...]
The most embarrassing text I’ve ever sent
Over the years I’ve been a dating coach I’ve developed an opinion that other dating coaches love to fight me on: you should listen to feedback from women, but don’t take their advice. If you’re going to catch a fish, you don’t ask the fish how to catch it. Girls will be correct about their subjective opinions (since it’s impossible to be wrong about them) but they’ll be wrong about how you should attract them. Use their feedback about your shortcomings, but get dating advice somewhere else. I learned this lesson the hard way when I was in my early 20s living in San Francisco. I had a … [Read more...]
The truth about confidence and rejection
If you don't feel confident in your dating life, it says nothing about your character. It's just an indication that you need more practice so you can stack more wins. There's a lot of nonsense out there on what confidence is, or what it takes to develop confidence. Confidence is the thoughts and feelings that result from a series of wins stacked together. It's your expectation of how you'll perform in a given situation, and it's different from self-esteem, which is your overall evaluation of yourself. I was reviewing Mate by Tucker Max yesterday and found a brilliant definition of … [Read more...]
The Importance of Teeth for Your Dating Life
While the right personality, temperament and confidence are probably the most important factors when it comes to successful long-term relationships, when it comes to attracting a woman in the first place, how we look and take care of ourselves plays a much bigger role that most guys overlook. And research has shown that one of the most important physical features is our teeth. Teeth are often amongst one of the first physical features that is noticed and can be an immediate turn off, even if everything else is a good fit. 38% of those recently surveyed revealed crooked teeth would likely … [Read more...]
What’s the Dork Forcefield?
When I was starting out as a dating coach, I got a lot better in every area of my life. The advantage I had is that I was constantly seeking other guys who were successful socially and comfortable around hot women. It offered a two-for-one benefit because I was always surrounded by people trying to improve, and it created the mastermind effect. A mastermind is a coaching group of like-minded individuals and mentors who network, share advice, and support each other, with the intention of helping everyone in the group advance both individually and collectively. As far as I’m aware, the … [Read more...]
I used to be fat
I used to be fat. It didn’t happen overnight. I had played sports and been active my whole life, but once I graduated college and started working a finance job, I settled into a routine that was killing me. I’d go out at night, crush beers, eat a California burrito, get too little sleep, then repeat the routine. I didn’t care. My main focus in life was learning how to talk to women. I told myself that I could eventually lose weight if I really cared about it, but it wasn’t really that important. After all, I didn’t want to date shallow women, if they didn’t appreciate my personality, … [Read more...]
The Magical, Mysterious Art of Selling the Dream
Okay, in reality it’s not that hard to sell the dream but far too many marketers, salesmen and business folks miss the mark. It’s costly. Think about in it terms of conversion rates. Not selling the dream causes bad conversion – few prospects become clients. However, when you effectively sell the dream, conversion rates not only go through the roof but up-sell because it's literally effortless. Sell the Vision Don’t try to sell the product or service, sell the dream. Don’t sell the technicalities and the specs; sell the vision that includes the person you’re pitching to. Don’t stick … [Read more...]
No Excuses: Don’t Let Your Shortcomings Stop You
The people who get what they want out of life are not much different than you. Look at me: You guys are paying to hear what I have to say because of the things I have done in my life and because you want do the same things that I do, like getting rich, having fun and getting lots of girls. Do you think I am successful because I am perfect, because I am better than you? Fuck no - it's because I don't let my shortcomings stop me. This is not something I normally do because it doesn't help me move towards my goals, but in this context it's appropriate to help you guys understand how I … [Read more...]
