It’s Friday night and you’ve got your dancing shoes on, except you don’t actually care about dancing tonight- you’re single and you are going out to meet women.
You and a buddy are trying to decide where to go. “There’s a new club that just opened, kinda a hipster scene, but the chicks are hot, bro!”
Places like that are a waste of the limited free time you have!
Busy guys quickly forget how much the environment of places we go out to affects our ability to meet girls. I know that for me personally, it used to be an ego thing. I wanted to be able to get different types of girls, and I wanted to be good at meeting women everywhere. But for every smoking hot alternative chick I took home, I’d waste a couple of nights getting rejected hard.
So why not make it easier and pick spots where you can meet women that match the characteristics you’re looking for?
Girls do this already! Girls who want to meet black guys go to places with good hip-hop, girls looking for a Latin adventure do salsa, and gold diggers hang out in Canary Wharf.
So just go to places where women are looking for guys like you!
It took me years to get this simple concept (well, I still screw this up from time to time, but I’m getting better), but once I realized it, meeting women became so much more efficient. In my case, I like to date hot lawyers/doctors/accountants, so I hang out at nicer bars that are quiet enough to have a conversation.
So, where could you be successfully meeting women?
1. The train/metro station – She’ll be so impressed you had the courage to approach! If she’s single, it’s usually not too hard to walk away with a number in less than 2-3 minutes (wouldn’t want you to miss the train).
The fact that she’s standing there during rush hour gives you a lot of useful information: She has a job, she’s doing something with her life, she’s probably open to dating guys with serious jobs. And you have a much better idea of what she looks like in the bright lights of a station compared to a dimly lit club.
2. Cocktail bars/lounges – If you’re looking to meet someone classy, go to a classy place. These places have softer music which make conversation easier, and you’re not going to find anyone throwing up in the toilets (until your friends start buying Jaeger).
You’re also more likely to find someone who is employed. The best part about a lounge is that you’ll occasionally find the type of woman who almost never parties who was dragged out by her friends. If you want to stay away from party girls, these places are great!
3. Bars and clubs with a niche – I live 5 minutes away from this awesome whiskey bar, and it seems like whenever I go there, there’s a gorgeous girl who’s out with male colleagues and patiently waiting for some guy to come to come keep her company.
So although the bars a block away from the local university may have have cheap drinks, a 2-dollar cover charge and a bunch of hot college chicks, these girls aren’t gonna talk to you unless your Spotify is 50% the Weeknd (I really hope it isn’t).
4. Out and about during the day
Want to feel an unstoppable sense of social freedom? Learn to meet women during the day while they’re going about their daily business. Even though it violates social norms (don’t worry, we have a way around that), one of the best ways to meet women is to approach them during the day and playfully initiate a conversation.
There’s no competition, you encounter the hottest women possible, and you demonstrate your confidence in a way that most guys never even imagine is possible.
Make life easy on yourself and think before you go out! Just because a place has hot girls, it doesn’t mean they’re gonna be hot for you.
Match your personality traits and your strengths to the types of venues where the women you want to meet spend time.