We’ve all been flaked on. Regardless of how good-looking, charismatic or genuinely interesting we may be... sometimes the inevitable “letdown text” comes in, leaving us high and dry. Sometimes it’s no biggie, but let's be honest: sometimes it's a total bummer! On average, however, men have to deal with it on a much more frequent basis than us women - so it would behoove you to prepare for this and, better yet, prevent it. Yes, I feel bad when I flake, but these days, especially in … [Read More...]
3 Ways To A Read Woman’s Subtle Social Cues…
Social cue: a verbal or nonverbal hint that guides conversation and other social interactions. I want to go in depth regarding the importance of recognizing social cues and understanding why an engaging and successful interaction with a girl completely depends upon them. The importance of this topic can't be overstated! Social cues are an example of behaving the way others anticipate us to, and living up to expectations of how we're supposed to interact with each other. When we behave … [Read More...]
13 Text Messages to Never Send Me…
I'm writing this article from the most unfiltered point of view I can to give you, single guys who are looking for "hot women" the best and most truthful peek into how these girls often operate. I don't make the rules - I simply just like to call them out. Enjoy! Whether we like it or not, texting has become the norm. More than the norm, actually - it has now surpassed the importance of a phone call within a dating scenario, in my opinion. A text message is a fleeting, … [Read More...]
8 Keys To Bottle Service (From a Bottle Service Girl’s Perspective)
I was a bottle service cocktail waitress at a popular nightclub in San Francisco for 6 years. I've been around the block :) There are typically a few types of guys you will run into that buy tables. Once you have a better perspective of what everyone else is doing, it's easier to understand where you fit in and whether or not you're the type of person who would enjoy bottle service or if it makes more sense to meet women somewhere else. The 4 primary types of dudes who you'll see getting … [Read More...]
What should I do when a girl cancels a date?
It’s a situation we’ve all been in: you recently met a girl and things seemed to click. You set up a date, and she either tells you she can’t make it, or cuts off any contact whatsoever. When a girl cancels a date, you may find yourself in a painful situation. But how do you react? The worst thing you can do is to show that you are upset or angry. Guys often do this by texting something emotionally charged, or demanding an explanation for why she cancelled the date. The best thing you … [Read More...]
Why Do I Suck With Women?
Guys who suck with women fall into a few of the same categories over and over. Sorry, but you're not a special snowflake. But this is a good thing: we've figured out the exact reasons why most guys suck, and we know what the fix is. 1. You have social anxiety Whether this means you have approach anxiety or a general uneasiness in all social situations, this is one of the more common reasons why guys don't do well with women. How could you make a woman feel comfortable with you if you … [Read More...]
What makes “naturals” different?
By naturals, I mean guys who – without studying game -- consistently attract hotter and higher quality girls than what their looks and social status would normally predict. Almost every natural I know has one important thing in common: a versatile, adaptable personality. Naturals intuitively adjust to the social situation at hand. They sense the emotional vibe in a room and act accordingly. They understand how to relate to different people in different ways. At work, they are … [Read More...]
How to Push/Pull and Build Sexual Tension…
For most men searching for dating advice, the stages of development when it comes to being comfortable creating sexual tension are as followed: Stage 1. Boring nice guy with no edge Stage 2. Creepy Pepe Le Pew sex maniac Stage 3. The perfect balance Most guys start in stage 1 because of normal social and sexual fears that need to be overcome on a boys path to becoming a man. Stage 2 seems awkward and riddled with adversary but there's no way to skip it. My golf coach used to … [Read More...]
21 Things Every Man Needs to Know How to Do…
Guest Post By Genevieve Some guys have it, and other guys simply don't. I don't want to undermine it by calling it swagger. Swagger, charm, appeal....they know what to say to a woman and how to say it. They know how to touch a woman. How to make the most uptight person smile. These aren't always the most attractive men, but one thing is definitely for sure—these are men. Whatever the scenario, and as cliche as it sounds - there is a distinct difference between men and boys. There is a … [Read More...]
How Many Hours Should You Spend Socializing To Become Really Really Good With People?
Many people want a better social life. Like a lot of things, they want it immediately. Is there any fast-track, shortcut or magic bullet to having a fulfilling social life? The Effort Involved in a Social Life A social life is a thing of great complexity, risk and advantage. This is an immediate gratification culture, but a healthy and active social life isn’t created overnight. A social life takes a great deal of deliberate planning. Time and money must be invested. Diligence and near … [Read More...]
36 Ways To Turn Off Women…
I've already written a list of the biggest turn-ons in a man...now comes time for the list of what not to do. Jealousy when not played off well. Everyone gets jealous, it's a natural thing. It's how you act on your jealousy that defines you as a person. If a guy either 1. Starts pouting like a child or 2. Starts raging like a psycho in response to myself receiving attention from another man, it's a big turn off. The correct thing to do: let it happen, notice it...then take another sip of your … [Read More...]
The Real Value of Money For Attracting Women…
Guest Post By Genevieve Today I want to place focus on our personal worth, value and how it has a great affect on your life! In your opinion, do you bring value to other people around you? Be honest with yourself. If I'm ever questioning my own place within a group setting, the first question I ask myself is: what am I adding to this dynamic/situation? If the answer is nothing, the next question is always what can I add? My goal is to steadily provide something to that is going to make my … [Read More...]
The 3 Stages of Cool…
The ability to integrate with the cool kids is crucial to being able to attract hot girls. A lot of people think that “cool” is a group, and when we talk about “cool kids,” it’s slightly misleading. “Cool” is not a group. It’s a way of being, and there are three stages to it. Stage 1 of Cool: The Trimmings This is the most basic level of cool, it’s the entry level. And when I say “trimmings” I’m talking about your clothes and your physical appearance. 95% of the time, geeks and … [Read More...]
Why Getting Rejected Is Good…
Why is rejection so scary? Our society does a great job of instilling shame in men. Growing up as kids, and even into our adult lives, we’re told toxic messages that can hold us back for a lifetime. Sometimes this shame originates from the people around us. Our parents or friends tell us these messages explicitly: that guy’s a player and you shouldn’t be like that. Or they could be more subtle messages from the media and movies: in order to get a girl to like you, you need to be nice and … [Read More...]
7 Reasons Why You’re Failing To Connect With Women…
Listening is a simple skill to master. It consists of two parts: focusing your attention on another person, and communicating to them that you’re present. This means you’re actively processing what they are saying, and at the same time, sending non-verbal signals like good eye contact. This isn’t too complicated. As social beings, it’s something humans are hard-wired to do. Even the best responses like paraphrasing, asking thoughtful questions, and giving feedback are skills we naturally … [Read More...]
How Men Can Overcome Their Height Disadvantage…
Most women 5'8 and up want to date really tall guys so they can feel small in their arms. Tall girls have issues about being big, but a 6'5, 240 pound guy makes them feel small. I am not a small guy, but I have a had a unique experience. I am only attracted to tall athletic girls. 5'8-5'11. I am 5'11 170 pounds. I am by far the shortest/smallest guy any of my girlfriends has ever dated, they always went very far out of their way to let me know this. LOL! I dated a girl who was … [Read More...]
Why You Shouldn’t Take Your Thoughts Seriously…
Everyone has thousands of thoughts running through their mind every day. Some of them are helpful, and some of them aren’t. People tend to forget that their thoughts are the result of chemical reactions in the brain, and instead mistake their thoughts as reality. We all know this rationally, but the implications for making positive changes in your life are huge when you understand this concept on a deeper level. The idea is that our thoughts are NOT reality, but just one possible … [Read More...]
6 Reasons Why You’re Screwing Yourself If You Don’t Work Out
I graduated high school as a shy nerdy kid, and one of the things that has helped me the most in coming out of my shell and getting more confident socially has been working out, which I started taking seriously in college. Inner Confidence places a lot of weight on getting the fundamentals down, and working out is one of those fundamentals for good reason. If you aren’t working out regularly, you’re screwing yourself over, and making it a lot harder to connect with women. Here are my … [Read More...]
Texting: The Fundamentals Of Communicating With Women
It's finally here! The long-awaited video of Robbie Kramer's latest 21 Convention speech is up. … [Read More...]
Why Night Club Promoters Typically Have Amazing Game…
What happens to a club promoter’s social life when he leaves that world behind for a regular job? Today we’re checking in with Ben, a Leverage moderator and master networker who has likability down to a science. You may remember Ben from the Leverage Podcast, where he discussed how he got started as a promoter and his approach to meeting women. If you haven’t listened to that episode, check it out. Ben has left the club promoting world but still manages to maintain an amazing social life. … [Read More...]
Approaching Women – When To Be Direct vs. Indirect
If you've ever approached a random woman while going about your day, or studied up on strategies on how to go about this the most effectively, then you've most likely asked yourself the question: "Should I be direct and tell her that I like her, or should I play it cool?" There is an ongoing debate about the benefit of directly stating your intent vs. indirectly striking up a conversation and letting that intent be demonstrated naturally. In this article, I'll take a stab and … [Read More...]
Meeting Women Through Tinder
For all of us who are feeling as though their online dating lives have been dim and dismal lately, we finally have something better, more simplified and modernized than more traditional sites like Match and eHarmony. There is no denying it: Tinder is the newest craze in the dating world. If you’re not familiar with tinder, you’re a nerd living under a rock and I’m not going to bother explaining what it is. Due to the platform, the strategy is slightly different but all the rules of dating and … [Read More...]
Write Her A Note- A Creative Way To Get Her Phone Number Without Risking Public Embarrasment
My favorite time to flirt with women is during the day, when I'm just going about my business. The dating community calls this "daygame." The problem with daygame is that it can be really awkward if there are a bunch of people who can overhear your conversation. You don't really have to worry about this at a bar, club, or lounge because the music is loud and it is socially acceptable to hit on a girl in these types of venues. But what about on the subway, in a crowded bus, in line at … [Read More...]
The #1 Biggest Seduction Mistake Men Make…
In 2010 I spent 12 days running a workshop in Amsterdam. My business partner and I organized a 8 day workshop with 6 clients and at the time, we needed two female models to help us run these programs. The models would interact with the clients while we filmed and then we would break down the video. Very similar to what we do with the mock dates we offer our clients. We brought 1 girl with us and organized another two who lived in Amsterdam but the day of the workshop, they flaked. So … [Read More...]
10 Things that Never Fail to Turn Women On…
Guest Post By Genevieve Confidence I know it sounds cliche, but the first word that comes into my head when I'm thinking about the difference between what turns me on, and what doesn't is CONFIDENCE. There is a reason Robbie chose to name his company - drum roll, please....... Inner Confidence. If you don't have even the slightest bit of confidence, everything I go into below is going to be a lot harder to achieve. Even if you're a bum, you deserve to have some confidence, so don't … [Read More...]
How To Tell If You’re Wasting Time Talking To A Girl In A Bar…
I have a buddy who is the king of approaching a girl at a bar, asking a few questions, pulling up a stool and lighting 3 hours on fire without ever finding out if he is good or not, only to get "I have a boyfriend." at the end of the night. Ain’t nobody got time for DAT. I refuse to not know where I stand within 10 minutes. I’ve pulled 8+ numbers out of one bar many times. This is because I move along. Here are the 3 steps to make sure you never waste your time talking to a girl who isn't … [Read More...]
Only Losers Need Plans
Through the years of developing the Inner Confidence curriculum, we've compiled a subconscious list of things that winners do and losers do. There are 10,000 subtle behaviors that add up to someone's overall success or failure: word choice, behavior, social ecosystem, etc. We hear the words "winners" and "losers" and don't pay much attention to them because they sound like generic, silly words. I really like them and think they don't get enough credit. Most decisions we make, even things we … [Read More...]
A Better Way To Connect With Women
Creating strong emotional connections, especially in a short amount of time, is a difficult skill to master. Anyone who is missing the signals that girls send and not connecting is thinking way too much about what's going on in their own head: insecurities, thoughts, what to say next, etc. They're focusing on the craziness in of their mind instead of the person in front of their face. They're directing their attention to the wrong place. Before getting into how to create a deep connection, … [Read More...]
What are the best kind of women to date?
Knowing your target audience is a crucial part of dating. You need to be aware of who you are talking to, and you need to be selling what it is people are willing to buy. It’s important to know what kind of girls you want to date, and how to tailor your conversations to screen for the right kind of women. Consider your audience what kind of content they would be interested. Figure out the personality nuances of who you’re talking to and how they will perceive your dialogue, views, and … [Read More...]
When She Won’t Commit To A Second Date…
Context: Met on Tinder, missed getting together for like 3 weeks, finally went out Friday. She was pretty touchy, made out in uber on way to bar #2, closed out bar 2, it's 2am and she was going to come home with me but also had to be at work at 6:30 so ended up going home on her own instead, good call. She was a little drunk and kinda toppled over outside the bar when we were figuring out what to do, dragged me down with her, it was hilarious. Really like this chick a lot and she seemed … [Read More...]
