The Best Hack for Dating Women Out of Your League
Due to the rise of Feminism in the West, dating for the average man has become extremely difficult. In this article I will convince you that it’s time to leave your home town and find a blue ocean of beautiful women.
Here are the reasons why:
Birth control & women’s rights movements leads to feminism (also aided by Shift to a knowledge worker economy and equal access to education (due to not having kids as early) )
Social safety net increases and wages equalize to the point that women don't need each other as much, accelerates feminism causing women to demand more from men.
Information age allows women to connect to each other, creates the life coaching industry and other female positive movements that reinforce their ever-increasing standards.
Marriage divorce complex fails to adjust to the new realities of modernity and the increasing standards of women leads them to initiate divorce much more than men, but the legal structures were built for a pre-birth control society. Leaving men feeling (justifiably) disaffected and financially raped.
As women's standards have continued to increase its gotten harder and harder for men to meet quality women. Above average guys are doing without these days. Instead women are concentrating their sexual activity at the top 5% of men in terms of attractiveness, but then they find a nice-guy to be a sperm donor and then contractually financially support their children for life, and then they divorce rape them and get breast implants. They are also being lied to here because they are told that they are going to be worth just as much on the dating market, but a lot of newly Double D 40+ ex wives are quickly informed of their mistakes. Too late, of course.
Two types of responses have happened by men:
Creation of the Red Pill -> Largely an angry response to the truthful bad deal modern men are getting, but being angry doesn't solve the biological need men have for women in their lives
Development of the PUA community -> An attempt to solve the "harder to find women" problem in (5) but it focuses on the tactics of approach. As women’s standards go up, this will work less well as well.
Therefore a new solution is needed. Something that is more like the supportive communities women form, but for men.
So what is that solution?
After spending a summer traveling in Europe in 2012 with my best friend and wingman, we came to an interesting epiphany. The further East we traveled the prices got cheaper, the women got hotter and the men got uglier and lazier. It was shocking to witness this trend as we went from Germany to Poland to Hungary to Serbia to Ukraine.
I kept going back to Eastern Europe every summer and having amazing experiences while renting out my apartment in LA on Airbnb. The money I made from my place even covered most of my travel expenses because the dollar goes so much further in these countries.
Eventually I explored other parts of the world including South America and Southeast Asia and found the same conclusions. Eventually I became a full time digital nomad since I could work from my laptop and spent 11 months of the year out of the US so I could qualify for the US Federal Tax Foreign Earned Income Exclusion.
This phenomenon is referred to as "Geohacking" and for men who can work from their laptop in their 20's and 30's this is one of the smartest things you can do to build your confidence with women, save money and setup your future life.
If you don't believe me I want you to open up one of your dating apps right now and change your location to any of the cities listed above and start swiping. You'll notice your potential matches are the type of possible romantic connections that seem like a pipe dream at home. But abroad these women are not out of your league. The simple reason why the women are so much more beautiful abroad is due to the fact that very few are fat. In the United States it's very difficult to stay thin because of all the garbage they put in the food. Eating healthy is difficult and expensive, but this is not a problem in most other non-western countries where large corporate farms are not controlling the food supply.
What are the cons of this Geohacking strategy?
The hardest part for me was being away from my family that I'm very close with but that actually was kinda a blessing in disguise because although I didn't see them quite as often, the time we spent together was more meaningful and impactful. I would make trips home a couple times a year and they would also visit me which was a cool experience for them to see the world and for me to play host. Many of my friends also came to visit me in Kyiv where I eventually moved to full time and we had a blast.
The hardest part about international dating is understanding cultural differences, cultural norms and dealing with the language barrier. But the most beautiful and intelligent women often come from more affluent families and are the highest percentage of the population that speak English. This is a perfect win-win! These women want to practice their English and the hotter they are, the better their English typically is. This makes international online dating way easier because you can already tell which ones speak fluently through the apps because it's fairly easy to decipher if someone is using a translator.
Regardless, I highly recommend you go on dates with women who speak little or no English as well because it forces you to improve your nonverbal communication skills which will make you a much better seducer. Love is an international language that doesn't require words. One of my fondest memories is making eye contact with a beautiful girl in a nightclub in Greece, walking up to her and noticing she was starring at my lips. I went in for the kiss and she started tonguing me down like crazy. I lead her to the toilet and we had a very passionate and lustful experience all within the span of about 7 minutes.
The hardest part of international dating is learning the nuances of digital communication and texting. This is where cultural norms can differ from place to place. I cover this at length in my texting course which is the area that men struggle with the most.
Another challenge of dating abroad is avoiding the label of sex tourist. Most women by the time they reach their mid 20's have had at least one experience of hooking up with a tourist and feeling the pain and loss of him leaving. Although it can be tempting to attempt to escapade around the world as an international seducer I wouldn't recommend it because the most beautiful women won't hook up with you unless they are looking for a one night stand and you'll never get to experience the depth and richness of the culture by constantly being on the move. It's also more stressful, expensive and difficult to nomad like this.
How long should you stay in each place?
I recommend staying for as long as your visa allows which in most places is 90 days. If you can stay for 6 months that's even better. That will give you enough time to decide if you want to stay longer and figure out how to get a temporary residence permit which isn't very difficult to obtain in the countries that are ideal for this strategy.
Tools to use:
The best international dating app is the one you're already using, haha. Seriously though, Tinder will work everywhere and odds are it will be better than the local apps but you should still do your homework and find out. In some emerging dating markets like Vietnam, you might be surprised that some of the local apps are popular. But always remember that dating apps are never as good as approaching women in real life. Dating apps can be a great way to meet people but your best international strategy will be comprised of approaching women and building a local social circle. When you build a social circle, dating in a foreign country will be infinitely easier because that circle will provide a steady flow of leads. Remember dating in a new country is hard, but just being a cool guy that has friends and hooking up with the girls that show interest is way easier and way more natural.
At the end of this article I'll show you my best method for building that social circle.
Building A Long Term Relationship Abroad:
If you're looking to find your partner, soulmate, dream girl, perfect 10, ride or die, etc... finding a foreigner comes with some pros and cons. The pros are you are way more likely to find a conservative, authentic, feminine and loyal partner who isn't obsessed with materialism abroad. You will spend the most time with this person as you age so the quality of this relationship is the biggest dictator of your future happiness more than anything else in your life. Yes you read that right, this matters as much as your health. So the idea of haphazardly picking someone to settle down with like most people is absolutely idiotic.
The cons of a foreign partner are almost related to communication issues due to cultural differences and misunderstanding and miscommunications. My wife is from Ukraine and even though we are best friends with the same morals, values, and ethics, we often fight because we misinterpret each others communication. But this happens less and less as time passes so
it's not much of a con.
Case study of a college student who went on to leverage this strategy for his hook-up goals:
In my young days I always used whatever tools available to leverage / to yield quick results, because thats what I wanted. So in college I was in frat, then worked as a bartender. When I became young professional I was miserable for most of the year as the "adult" landscape is super competitive in DC and I would basically be miserable and try to bang occasional girls I would meet in the bar scene / club (same night ofc) and the in summer I would adjust to work and travel students who came from Russia / Ukraine in substantial quantities for seasonal work (Ocean City, MD). (Of course I had a nice house, hosted parties, had a nice convertible)
Then I went to study my MBA in Europe (France, Netherlands, Finland – all shitholes) and then discovered Ukraine (thank god!) From then on I was able to do another 10 years of absolutely insane lifestyle which of course wouldn't be possible state side, unless you are some sort of celebrity. In terms of selection you get really good at seeing right through people. With this sort of lifestyle you just want to fuck, so every date has to do more or less with alcohol and the more the higher the chances are to hook up.
So of course if I saw someone who requires more effort and attention, I would just skip those, and move on to next. The problem in Europe / USA is scarcity, where you are basically limited in your choices, and get stuck in the environment which is far from ideal. For example in college you don't have that, like everyone gets drunk / parties and it's sort of "normal". As long as you can cement your status and leverage it, you are good. That of course if you go to a nice party university.
Case Study of a guy who wanted to find his soulmate:
The next case study is of yours truly and I wanted to also give you the step-by-step manual on how to build that social circle in order to attract your ideal partner. I made a video outlining my journey and how I built my circle in Kyiv, Ukraine. I lived there from 2018 until the Russian Invasion in 2022.
Hope you enjoyed this article!
-Robbie
