The Real Deal on Texting and Dating: No Need for Fancy Moves

Texting is Hard, But Does It Have to Be?

I'll be the first to admit it: texting is hard. When you're texting a girl you've just met, you're both still strangers. You can't see her face, so you can't tell how she's feeling. That's why most texting fails. But don't worry. I've been there and got better at it. Now my students are killing it with their text game. They're meeting women in person and on Tinder, then texting them to set up dates.

Texting Is Not for Falling in Love

Let's get one thing straight: texting isn't about making her fall for you. The main goal is simple. You want to see her again, face to face.

How to Tell If She's Into You

So how do you know if she's interested? Check your texts. If you're texting more than her, she's not that into you. If she's not joking or asking questions, she's not interested. But if she's chatting and having fun, that's a good sign.

Play It Smart: Match Your Moves to Her Interest

If you see she's kinda into you, don't go overboard trying to win her over. It'll backfire. Just focus on getting that date. If she's really into you, ask her out solo. If she's kinda interested, invite her to a group thing. If she's not biting, lay low and keep in touch through Instagram or Snapchat.

The Right Way to Ask Her Out

Here's a big tip: Don't ask her out. Tell her out. Asking looks weak. Telling is strong. So find out when she's free and then make your move. Here's how:

• "Hey Julie, how's your schedule? Let's go for beers, tacos, and darts."

• "What's up? Free this week? Let's do dinner at Chipotle. Times are tough! Jk we’re going for cocktails."

• "Got time? Let's go on a formal date. Just kidding, it's gonna be cheap and chill."

So that's it, folks. Texting is a game, but it's not the whole game. Your real goal is to get face to face. Keep it simple, read the signs, and make your move. Easy as that.

Take the Guesswork Out of Texting: Get Expert Help

Look, if she's into you, you've got nothing to lose. And if she's not? You're still where you started. No harm done. Being confident can only help you.

Last-Minute Date Plan

Even if she's leaving town, you can still make a move. Just be direct and make it easy for her to say yes.

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That's where my community comes in. In this members-only area, you can post your texts and get expert advice. Whether it's me or one of my coaches, we've got your back 24/7. We'll even explain why we suggest what we do. So you're not just getting better texts, you're becoming a better texter.

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