Should I Lie to Get More Women?

Guys often ask about lying to women, and if it's an effective strategy to reaching their mating goals.

If you want to be the guy who lies to get women, no one is going to stop you, and you may see some short-term results. The thing is, it's not the most effective way to get women and will lead to complicated situations and unwanted drama down the road. At first glance, lying may seem like a shortcut, or a way to hack the system.

However, hot women have very good BS detectors that have been honed through a lifetime of social interaction. They are constantly in the limelight, and because of getting constant opportunities to socialize, they pick up on social cues you don't even realize you're sending.

Women in general are better at reading social cues than men, so more often than not, lying isn't the shortcut that guys often perceive it to be.

So what actually works?

The trick is to be honest with yourself about what you actually want and behave in manner that’s congruent with that around the women you really want. Most men think they need to lie about their intentions. They want to have a lot of sex and short term relationships and they think women aren’t interested in that. Let me tell you, there are tons of women interested in that, but the way you present it must be subtle and covert enough to avoid her feeling slut-shamed. This is going to widely vary across ages, cultures and demographics. There is way less shaming of promiscuous women in less religious countries, for example.

You also have to transform yourself into the type of man who is highly attractive with a high sexual market value the more you want to filter for women who are interested in short term dating. These women will place a higher value on attraction, dominance and masculinity than a women who is looking for a man to play more of the long term provider role.

I always advise my clients to never present themselves as a provider because it opens them up as a target for manipulation.

Different types of women will respond to your approach differently depending on if it's day versus night, what type of venue you're at, the city you're in, the social activity you're engaged in, and a lot of deeper social factors we discuss in our community. In the short run and long run, this will net you better results and more fulfillment. It's one of those things in life that's simple, but not easy: develop the things about yourself that you want to develop, and identify the women who value those specific things.

This is why it's CRUCIAL to know your target audience.

Michael Jordan's advice that "Nothing of value comes without being earned" is definitely true.