5 of the Most Effective Tips for Improving Your Vocal Tonality

Some guys are born with a naturally powerful voice that turns women on.

Most guys aren't as fortunate.

Some guys have naturally picked up good habits from their peers, friends, and families. Most guys don't put in this kind of effort, but they should.

Even professionals like sportscasters have spent hundreds of hours working on their own and with coaches to sound more confident.

1. Open your mouth wider

Do you mumble? Open your mouth wider.Do you speak too quickly? Open your mouth wider.

Do you speak too softly? Open your mouth wider.This could go on and on, and there's a good reason for this piece of advice: a huge amount of vocal tonality issues disappear when you simply open your mouth wider.

It's one of the first tips singers learn, and it's as close to a magic pill as you can get when you're working on your voice.

2. Breathe from your diaphragm

Even though it’s the only skill we’ve been using since birth, most people actually breathe incorrectly. Take a deep breath, hold it for a few seconds, and exhale.Did you shoulders rise and fall? If they did, that means you’re breathing wrong. Correct breathing happens from the diaphragm, not the chest. When you breathe, the only thing that should be moving is your stomach because that means you’re properly breathing from your diaphragm.

When you breathe properly, you speak with more power and conviction, and come across as more seductive without even thinking about it.

3. Stop ending your sentences with an upward inflection

Don't do this (unless you're a Kardashian)

4. Record yourself

Most guys never do this because it's awkward, uncomfortable, and even downright painful to hear their own voices. But this is another situation where just taking the simplest step will already put you ahead of most steps. Do something that's uncomfortable and listen to your own speech.

Read a paragraph out loud while recording it on your iPhone. Once you get over the discomfort of hearing your own voice, the insights you'll gain from listening critically will lead to rapid improvements in your voice.

5. Learn to relax your larynx

Guys with weak or feminine sounding voices often carry too much tension in their larynx (the muscle that we think of as the Adam's Apple). Diaphragmatic breathing can help significantly, but it's even more important to do exercises that specifically target the larynx. Search Youtube for tutorials, and practice these at least once a day.

You'll be shocked at how quickly your voice improves.Most of the social skills you need to learn to improve your life are difficult. Vocal tonality is an exception.

It just takes 10 minutes a day of following these simple tips to experience real results.

What to do next:

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