Tips For Messaging On Seeking

I often encourage my wealthy clients to utilize the dating platform: Seeking

If you haven't heard of it, it's quite the controversial dating site because it attempts to link up sugar daddies and sugar babies and create a mutually beneficial arrangement. It used to be called "Seeking Arrangements" but they shortened the name.

In this post I'm going to break down the beginning of an interaction between my client and sugar baby.

My client posted this in the community and asked for advice on how to proceed:

Ok group, what is the reply here? This is 39 yo girl from seeking. I know my intro is a little wordy, and maybe I oversold myself, but I did about 20 other more brief intros on seeking this week with no reply...

P.s., she had a lot in her profile about being independent, so that was reason for my second text.. and then the topless girl on bike that she mentions is referencing one of my profile photos.

She asked what I think about her photos. Hmm...

Here's my response:

Here's how I would have tweaked your opening message:

"Hi Elle, while reading your profile I kept having this "yes, yes me too!" reaction. You have quite the way with words. Especially what you said about not smothering each other, I don't have a jealous bone in my body."

This is all you needed to say. Everything else in your message was detrimental to the cause. Saying she should respond because you worked on yourself a lot and every moment is an adventure is horribly bad.

From her standpoint, what guy isn't gonna say that about himself? You can't get away with this sort of stuff very often.

I can't give you my best response here because I can't see all of her photos, but given what you showed me I would send this:

"After careful review of your photos I am quite disappointed due to the fact that I did not see you topless on a bike. But aside from that, everything else was A+. Also, the red lingerie... A++. And I'm a tough grader. How's your schedule? Let's meet and see if we click and work out a fun arrangement."

Some of my most successful clients have used seeking to really boost their game, if you’d like to explore working together to do the same, feel free to schedule a call...