242: From Awkward to Smooth: Becoming a Master of Approaching Women
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Intro :
Host Robbie Kramer and guest Mariia Kramer start off by discussing elevator pitch examples and the importance of having a script in mind to navigate a successful approach. They show scenes from movies to explore the different techniques, such as the triangular gaze technique to boost attraction and execute a perfect first kiss. Robbie and Mariia also give advice on how to gracefully handle rejection and the importance of desensitization to beautiful women.
Show Notes:
03:26 – Call out the situation! – You need to be DIRECT and HONEST! Find out how…
04:24 – Struggling with ‘nice guy syndrome’ ? – Intentionally go through rejection! Host explains why…
05:11 – Any guy that says his rejection rate is less than 40% is lying! – Find out why!
03:11 – We watch and break down the first scene from the movie ‘Hitch’ – Watch how Hitch approaches a chick and what you can learn from it!
07:09 – Should you immediately walk over to a chick and hand her a free drink? – Watch this scene and find out what we think!
09:12 – “She rejects him with grace” – learn what it means to be rejected with grace!
10:57 – You should approach women that you are MOST attracted to! – Host breaks down why!
12:00 – “He just keeps going” – Learn when to stop hitting on a chick!
12:36 – Hitch intervenes! – Learn about social awareness!
15:49 – The more he disagrees, the more she becomes attracted to him! – Learn from Hitch!
18:02 – He didn’t try to get her number – Have no attachment to outcome! Listen & learn…
19:51 – “Naturals aren’t born… naturals are made!” – Get desensitized to beautiful woman, here is why!
21:10 – “Hey, not to be that creepy guy….” – Host shares his favorite, infamous pickup line!
23:19 – Walking her to her door… – We break down Kevin James’s awkward scene in the movie ‘Hitch’!
25:02 – Are you expecting him to kiss you on your first date? – Guest explains in what scenario she would kiss on the first date!
26:43 – How do you know when a girl wants to kiss you? – Find out here!
27:16 – This is what happens when you don’t kiss a girl that wants to be kissed! – Watch & learn from this scene!
27:51 – How not to kiss women! – Watch this scene & listen to us break it down!
31:21 – Watch how Will Smith gets an attractive woman’s attention! – This is how to get her away from a bunch of guys!
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Transcript :
Robbie Kramer [00:00:00]:
They say, what do you do? And I say, well, have you ever seen the movie Hitch? Well, I’m like that guy in real life that was so bad, like intentionally go get rejected. A bunch of times when a girl is rude to a guy, it’s usually because she hasn’t been approached a lot. Do you reject people with grace, baby? So what do you think of the approach of immediately walking over and bringing her a drink? Every guy without any sort of desensitization is going to be intimidated by a beautiful woman. Hey, not to be that creepy guy that gets on you on the street, but I got to be that creepy guy. I’m Robbie.
Robbie Kramer [00:00:29]:
Welcome to the Inner Confidence Podcast, where we bring you men’s dating and lifestyle advice that doesn’t suck. I’m your host, Robbie Kramer, a former collegiate golfer turned poker pro turned finance guy who became obsessed with learning about male female attraction and dynamics and passionate about teaching men how to improve and optimize their love life. Tune in each week and we’ll bring you the latest and greatest strategies on how to get more dates, how to build a thriving social circle that brings the best men and women into your life, how to become a better networker, and how to design a lifestyle that makes all your buddies jealous. If you’re new to the show, I recommend you download my first Date Protocol. It’s the best piece of content I have. It’ll help you optimize your first date and subsequent dates. And I like to connect with my listeners personally. So if you want to grab a copy of that, please send me a direct message on Instagram. I’m at Robbie Kramer. Now let’s dive into this week’s content.
Robbie Kramer [00:01:20]:
Welcome back, everybody. We’re here with my lovely wife, Maria.
Mariia Kramer [00:01:24]:
Hi.
Robbie Kramer [00:01:25]:
And we have another cool episode of Movie Breakdowns. Today we’re going to be breaking down the movie that I typically describe myself. When people ask me what I do, they say, what do you do? And I say, well, have you ever seen the movie Hitch? Well, I’m like that guy in real life, but without all the cheesy Hollywood stuff. And my tan also isn’t that good. So if you have his I don’t have a golf tan over here. Let’s see, maybe a little bit of a golf tan. What can you do? Anyways. So yeah. Hitch will Smith movie. I don’t know. When did it come out? Late 90s, early 2000s, something like that. Very funny, rom.com. So we’re going to be breaking down some of the scenes from that movie to see how realistic they are and just because, why not? It’s a great movie in terms of actually bringing awareness to guys trying to improve their situation. When it comes to girls, obviously, if you’re too focused on picking up chicks, that sends the wrong signal. And women can immediately tell that you’re thirsty and you’re probably a loser versus if you focus on how to make myself a better man. It’s a much different mindset to go in, one that’ll actually work versus one that will just lead to you probably looking like a thirsty idiot.
Mariia Kramer [00:02:57]:
So don’t forget to press the like button. Correct.
Robbie Kramer [00:03:02]:
You’re supposed to say that at the end, baby.
Mariia Kramer [00:03:03]:
Let’s say at the beginning. Press the like button and enough to.
Robbie Kramer [00:03:07]:
Enjoy your and enjoy the show.
Mariia Kramer [00:03:09]:
Yeah.
Robbie Kramer [00:03:10]:
All right. So the first movie, the first scene that we’re going to do is what should we do first? Should we do the awkward kiss? Should we do the call it out scene, or should we do the call it out, call it out scene? So one of the tenets of approaching women is the idea of calling out the situation. Right? And what I mean by calling out the situation is by literally telling her what it is you’re doing, because it’s like she already knows what you’re doing. Obviously, she knows you’re hitting on her. And if you try to be coy about that or if you try to be totally indirect, you have to be really good. It’s a lot harder to walk up to a girl and just kind of off the cuff, be funny and cool and interesting and make it seem like you’re not hitting on her, and then transition that into her contact info and then later ask her on a date. Right. At some point, the cat’s going to be out of the bag. So my advice for guys who aren’t super comfortable with rejection, they haven’t done this a lot, and they’re running nice guy syndrome because they’re intimidated by beautiful women. My advice is usually to move through rejection, like intentionally go get rejected a bunch of times, because then you’ll realize it’s not that big of a deal, it’s not that scary. It doesn’t hurt that bad. And then your ability to be confident and smooth and cool and all those things I’ve mentioned will naturally shine through, but you have to kind of go through that period of being awkward or being a little bit creepy or being all those things that you don’t want to be. When you embrace those things, you’re usually not at the end of that approaching journey, which can take guys sometimes thousands of approaches to get to the point where they’re actually good enough at it to get really good results. Like, I’ve probably done 10,000 approaches in.
Mariia Kramer [00:05:04]:
My life, 10,000 hours, right?
Robbie Kramer [00:05:07]:
Yeah. I mean, that’s kind of the deal. Obviously, my rejection rate was probably around 75, 80. Any guy who tells you they’re doing much better than, like, 40%, where meaning, like, you walk over to a girl, you get her number. If they say they’re better than 40% and they’re not a celebrity, they’re probably full of shit, because at least half the girls out there are in a relationship, right?
Mariia Kramer [00:05:33]:
Yeah. Or don’t want to meet you. They’re too busy. They’re like, Sorry, I have a boyfriend.
Robbie Kramer [00:05:38]:
Well, there’s 50% are going to be in a relationship. Out of the other 50%, one of those girls is just going to be having a terrible day, and she’s going to reject you no matter what you do. And then if you’re really good, right, you might be able to capture the remaining four with really good inner game conversation skills, presence, ability to handle sexual tension, all those things. And the highest form of that, like I kind of said, is calling it out. So this is probably the best example I’ve ever seen of calling it out. One thing I teach my guys how to do well at the end, I’ll kind of go into that. But let’s watch the scene first of how Hitch approaches, whatever her name is, and.
Speaker D [00:06:25]:
She’S some kind of newspaper columnist, comes in there once in a while. Great timber. What’s her drink? Usually beer. Tonight gray goose martini.
Robbie Kramer [00:06:34]:
Dirty. All right. So how realistic would this be.
Mariia Kramer [00:06:39]:
That the barman tells you what she usually drinks and today driving is different?
Robbie Kramer [00:06:45]:
The only way this would actually be a thing is if Hitch came in a lot and was good enough buddies with the bartender, where the bartender would give this information. I mean, unless he made that connection with the bartender real quick because he tipped him a big tip or something like that. But I don’t know. Obviously, it’s Hollywood, so it’s not super realistic. We’ll see. So what do you think of the approach of immediately walking over and bringing her a drink?
Mariia Kramer [00:07:20]:
I don’t drink. I just say I don’t the other people say, sorry, I would just, like, put it on the table and they won’t touch it.
Robbie Kramer [00:07:28]:
I think it’s cringey. I mean, if you’re cool and confident, you can pull anything off. But I think this is lame. I don’t know who fucking does this anymore, right? Yeah.
Mariia Kramer [00:07:42]:
Don’t forget.
Robbie Kramer [00:07:43]:
Yeah. I mean, it’s still like you could still do this, obviously. But the ODS of a girl sitting alone at a bar and just like, looking at her watch and casually sipping on something is when you get this situation. It’s like seeing a girl sitting on a park bench, right? And you’re like, oh, my God, this almost never happens. Like a hot girl sitting alone on a park bench. And you have all day to think of, like a clever line to go over and chatter up. If you don’t take advantage of that opportunity, you should kick yourself because it doesn’t happen very often is what I’m saying.
Speaker D [00:08:14]:
Hi. I noticed your glass was getting a little low, so I took the liberty of bringing you another apple Martine.
Mariia Kramer [00:08:22]:
Thank you.
Speaker D [00:08:22]:
And I couldn’t help but notice you look a lot like my next girlfriend.
Mariia Kramer [00:08:27]:
What’s your name?
Robbie Kramer [00:08:31]:
So obviously you got the drink wrong because I think she said dirty martini and he assumed it’s apple and appletini, which is like a cliched chick drink, so so far, I actually think this guy’s approach I mean, it’s cheesy, but it’s funny. He’s attractive, kind of works. So far, so good, right?
Speaker D [00:08:55]:
They call me Chip.
Speaker E [00:08:56]:
You can’t get him to stop.
Speaker D [00:08:59]:
That was funny.
Speaker E [00:09:01]:
Listen, Chip.
Robbie Kramer [00:09:01]:
So obviously, whenever a girl says, Listen, Chip, she’s not into it, right? His approach wasn’t terrible, but she’s just not having it. Right. She’s got that look on her face like, yeah, thanks, but no thanks.
Speaker E [00:09:13]:
I understand the courage it takes to walk across the room and try to generate a relationship out of thin air, so don’t take the following personally.
Speaker D [00:09:20]:
You have fantastic eyes.
Mariia Kramer [00:09:23]:
That’s so bad. She’s literally rejecting you. I don’t know. I don’t think.
Robbie Kramer [00:09:33]:
Well, it’s like he’s not even paying attention to what she’s saying. He’s just got the next line in his head, right? You are fantastic. I mean, it’s the same reaction that Hitch is having here, right? What the hell?
Speaker E [00:09:47]:
Thanks. Try to listen. This is no reflection on you. I’m just not interested. But thank you for the compliment of coming over.
Speaker D [00:09:56]:
You’re welcome.
Robbie Kramer [00:10:00]:
So this is what you’ll typically see with a woman who’s very confident she’ll reject a guy with grace, right? Took a lot of balls. Thanks for doing it. Sorry. It’s not you, it’s me. Right. When a girl is really mean or abrasive or, like, rude to a guy, it’s usually because she hasn’t been approached a lot and she doesn’t know how to reject a guy with grace. And you might think, oh, well, why shouldn’t she just be like that to get out of the situation? Why shouldn’t she just be mean and abrasive? Because that would end it earlier, right? That would be the fastest route to her ended result. And and it’s actually not, because if you’re a bitch to some guys, those guys might get mad, and then they might try to get even or start becoming aggressive or rude or something. So you can tell a girl. Usually guys were like, oh, I want to boost my confidence and hit on some girls I’m not that attracted to before approaching the ones I’m really attracted to. And that’s actually a mistake. You should approach the girls you’re most attractive to, and the hotter she is, the more likely she’s going to reject you gracefully or accept you gracefully. She’s got experience. I’m sure you’re aware of that. Do you reject people with grace, baby? Not always. I mean, you’re never, like, rude or mean, right?
Mariia Kramer [00:11:24]:
No, I’m not. Sometimes people are so annoying. I would say, Sorry, I have a boyfriend. And they would just continue and continue. And I would just say, sorry, I can’t continue this conversation. Like, I need to leave.
Robbie Kramer [00:11:38]:
No, it’s not rude at all. Rude would be like, EW, don’t talk to me.
Mariia Kramer [00:11:43]:
I would never say something like that.
Robbie Kramer [00:11:45]:
Or like having one of those reactions. Never seen someone oh, trust me, I have. It’s shocking how ridiculous some girls will just get scared and run away.
Mariia Kramer [00:11:59]:
Funny.
Speaker D [00:12:00]:
So do you like Cuban food?
Speaker E [00:12:03]:
Seriously, that was not code. Where I wish you’d try harder.
Speaker D [00:12:07]:
Are you always so shut down and afraid that the right man might make.
Robbie Kramer [00:12:11]:
You feel like, see, this is what happens. These guys, they go from, like, I’m going to use my pickup lines to they’ve done this so many times and now they’re salty. And then they go salty and creepy.
Mariia Kramer [00:12:24]:
She literally she asks him to pay attention and he still doesn’t care.
Robbie Kramer [00:12:30]:
A schmuck like this ruins it for everybody.
Mariia Kramer [00:12:32]:
Yeah.
Robbie Kramer [00:12:34]:
Now we’re going to see Hitch come over.
Speaker D [00:12:37]:
You feel like a natural woman. Sorry I’m late, honey. I couldn’t get a cat. How was the meeting?
Speaker E [00:12:43]:
Oh, well, there was a beginning, a middle, and an end. Nice to meet you, Chip.
Speaker D [00:12:55]:
You too.
Robbie Kramer [00:12:58]:
So anytime this situation happens, this is another total green flag where you see a girl really poorly being hit on and the guy just won’t get the picture and he won’t leave. You see this all the time at places that have dance floors. Like, a girl will just be dancing, and then a guy will come up and start grinding on her, and she’s, like, coding to her friend, help me.
Mariia Kramer [00:13:20]:
Save me.
Robbie Kramer [00:13:21]:
And the friend’s not really getting it. That’s your opportunity to swoop in like a white knight in shining armor. Now, I never want to be a white knight, but you can swoop in and basically pretend to be her boyfriend and dismiss the guy. She’s going to love you for it. He’s not going to give a shit. Well, he’s not going to know, right? Like, how would this guy know? It’s not so it’s a very smooth way to start an approach.
Mariia Kramer [00:13:49]:
Yeah, but you need to have a lot of confidence to do something like that.
Robbie Kramer [00:13:51]:
Of course.
Mariia Kramer [00:13:52]:
It’s not easy. You can try. Of course.
Robbie Kramer [00:13:55]:
One of my best stories was I was actually leading a workshop in where Scotty lived. Scottsdale. And there was a girl who was that exact situation I mentioned. She was like some guy was grinding on her and he was really drunk, and I just came over and swooped in and saved her. And she was like from that just from saving her. It showed so much social awareness and confidence and all that that she was Jews in.
Speaker D [00:14:21]:
Now, on the one hand, it is very difficult for a man to even speak to someone that looks like you. But on the other hand, should that be your problem?
Speaker E [00:14:30]:
So life’s kind of hard all around.
Speaker D [00:14:33]:
Well, not if you pay attention.
Robbie Kramer [00:14:36]:
So that’s him calling it out, right? He’s literally saying, what’s going on?
Speaker D [00:14:44]:
I mean, you’re sending all the right signals. No earrings, heels under two inches, your hair is pulled back. You’re wearing reading glasses with no book, drinking a great Goose martini, which means you had a hell of a week and a beer just wouldn’t do it. And if that wasn’t clear enough, there’s always the off that you have stamped on your forehead. Because who’s going to believe that there’s a man out there that could sit down beside a woman he doesn’t know and genuinely be interested in who she is, what she does, without his own agenda?
Speaker E [00:15:12]:
Yeah. I wouldn’t even know what that would look like. So what would a guy like that say?
Robbie Kramer [00:15:17]:
Well, he’d say so I feel like this part where he’s scripting the whole thing out, right. Like, you’d have to be very good at doing this. You could cold read a lot of that stuff. Right. But the interesting thing here is actually that a lot of women, if you call it out like this and you role play, they’ll role play back with you. I feel like what he’s saying may not be super realistic, but her response is realistic.
Mariia Kramer [00:15:43]:
It’s just like a game. It’s like fun yeah. To play this little game.
Robbie Kramer [00:15:49]:
Right.
Speaker D [00:15:50]:
Say, My name is Alex Hitchens and I’m a consultant. But she wouldn’t be interested in that because she’d probably be just counting the seconds until he left, thinking he was.
Robbie Kramer [00:15:59]:
Like every other guy, which Life experiences.
Speaker D [00:16:02]:
Taught her is a virtual certainty. But then he’d ask her name and what she did for a living and she might blow him off or she might say.
Speaker E [00:16:16]:
I’m Sarah Mila. I run the gossip column at the Standard. And then he’d ask all these penetrating questions about it because he was sincerely if atypically, interested.
Speaker D [00:16:28]:
No, he’d be interested.
Robbie Kramer [00:16:31]:
So you could see here, the more he disagrees with her, the more she gets attracted. Right. And he steals the frame here, and you can see her releasing that tension, her smiling and kind of becoming like a little girl.
Mariia Kramer [00:16:45]:
But it’s also because he’s so different from all the guys that approach her all the times. For her, it’s just interesting how it will end because he’s so different.
Robbie Kramer [00:16:55]:
Yeah. I mean, it’s a cool juxtaposition of the first guy who’s just going to say the same cheesy lines to all the girls. You can go in with a cheesy opening line because it’s cliche and you can kind of joke about it, but you have to then be real and be cool, which that guy clearly was not capable of.
Mariia Kramer [00:17:16]:
And you need to listen to a girl because usually a lot of guys approach me and they ask me some questions and I respond, and they immediately.
Robbie Kramer [00:17:24]:
Forget they’re not listening.
Mariia Kramer [00:17:25]:
They’re not listening because they only want one thing. And it’s like, so obvious.
Robbie Kramer [00:17:32]:
They’re nervous.
Mariia Kramer [00:17:34]:
Some of them are nervous, but some of them, they just don’t they don’t care. They don’t see you as a person. They only see you, like a beautiful body that they want. And you can see it immediately because he sees her differently. He doesn’t see just, oh, she’s hot, and that’s all.
Robbie Kramer [00:17:52]:
Yeah. And usually for guys to get past that. They need a lot of exposure therapy. They need a lot of interactions with beautiful women and to not be intimidated.
Speaker D [00:18:02]:
Yeah, but he’d see that there was no way he could possibly make her realize that he was for real.
Speaker E [00:18:09]:
He could be funny and charming and refreshingly original.
Speaker D [00:18:15]:
Wouldn’t help.
Speaker E [00:18:16]:
Don’t you hate it when that happened?
Speaker D [00:18:18]:
Not really. They’d both probably go on to lead the lives they were headed toward, and my guess is they’d do just fine. It’s a pleasure to have met you, Sarah Milas.
Robbie Kramer [00:18:35]:
So what stood out to you about the ending of that?
Mariia Kramer [00:18:40]:
I like that he didn’t try to be like that guy, like, oh, give me your number or something. He was like, they will do just fine. And he just left. And that feels really cool.
Robbie Kramer [00:18:53]:
It’s cool because it’s showing such an extreme level of detachment to outcome. But it’s also risky because what if he never sees her again? He must have had information. I don’t remember, but I think he must have had information that he could oh, yes.
Mariia Kramer [00:19:12]:
That’s why he now sounds clever. Information.
Robbie Kramer [00:19:16]:
Yeah. Instead of doing the obvious thing, what every guy would do is get the number text.
Mariia Kramer [00:19:21]:
He just can see her by accident. Both of her work or something like that.
Robbie Kramer [00:19:25]:
Yeah. So yeah, pretty smooth. So an example of like a Midi version. Obviously this isn’t even close to as potent as what he did in the movie, but of calling it out. What I teach the guys in the interconfidence community is, regardless at what level you are, even Dan Blazerian approached thousands of girls. If you read his book, he did it basically every guy you know, that crushes with girls, naturals aren’t born. Naturals are made. Right. And you become a natural at a young age by getting desensitized to beautiful women, because every guy without any sort of desensitization is going to be intimidated by a beautiful woman. It’s just the laws of nature, I guess. So most guys kind of go through this period of desensitization if they’re naturals, either in high school or college, where they have other guys who are like, mentors, big Brother figures, who kind of teach them these things. Some guys don’t learn it until later. Like me, I didn’t understand this stuff until my mid 20s, late 20s, because I went to boot camps, workshops, and had to figure it out. But one thing you can do if you want to speed up that process, like I said, you can go out and talk to girls. And my suggestion is to always call it out because that is the best way to show that you’re interested. But you’re also showing a huge amount of social awareness, which makes you not look like a loser. Right. Because anytime you talk to a random girl in a situation and you’re approaching her, you’re coming in lower value. She’s got more status than you do, effectively and you need to find a way to kind of even it out. You can do that with humor and all of those different things that Will Smith demonstrated, but, like, just an easy opening line. One of the lines that I like to use is be like, hey, not to be that creepy guy that hits on you on the street, but I got to be that creepy guy. I’m Robbie. So I know we’re, like, on the sidewalk here. I don’t know. What the hell are you supposed to ask someone that? You just like me? I don’t know. What’s your favorite color? What’s your favorite book? What’s your favorite ice cream? Actually, don’t answer any of that. What’s your favorite color?
Mariia Kramer [00:21:35]:
Actually, black.
Robbie Kramer [00:21:39]:
Black? I figured you’d say black. That’s an easy thing to say. You’re wearing all black. Anyways. You’re busy? I’m busy. I got to run. Give me your number. If you don’t like me, give me a fake one.
Mariia Kramer [00:21:48]:
Okay. Fake number.
Robbie Kramer [00:21:53]:
That’s just like a simple elevator pitch, an example of how you can kind of call the whole thing out, right? It’s like, what do you ask someone? What, do you just talk to them on the street, make some dumb questions up, don’t really care about the answer, and then you leave if you run out of shit to say. So I guarantee if guys were to try that more often, they’d have a lot better success than just trying to think of something on the fly. That’s always a hurdle for guys, is like, oh, well, I can’t be that smooth because I got to just think of something off the cuff. It’s really helpful to have a back pocket sort of script in your mind that you can go to at any time. And I’ve got a bunch of templates, like, that that guys can use.
Mariia Kramer [00:22:33]:
But the thing also, when you stop someone on the sidewalk, the person is going somewhere. The person is busy, right? This way, you need to be really quick to not make her annoyed with you, right? Because if you stop her and you try to speak with her for, like, five minutes, she’s like, Sorry, I need to leave. And she would just leave, and the impression won’t be so great about you. But if you quick.
Robbie Kramer [00:22:57]:
Yeah. Dropping a false time constraint is also important, which we talked about, I think, in the scene on the podcast before, where if you do stop a girl and she doesn’t want to feel like you’re going to talk to her forever, right? So you need to say something to insinuate that you’ll be leaving soon, even if you’re not. All right, let’s do the next clip. So we already have awkward cliche walking her to her door scene. I mean, I don’t know how often this happens anymore. Hopefully never, but this is exactly why I say follow the dating protocol. If you guys don’t have the dating protocol, send me a message a DM on Instagram and I’ll send you the PDF.
Mariia Kramer [00:24:17]:
And first press the like button.
Robbie Kramer [00:24:19]:
You already said that. So the dating protocol stops you from having to kiss a girl on her fucking doorstep. Because this is like so obvious and cliche. I mean, it might be so obvious in cliche. It doesn’t even happen anymore. I mean, this is a thing. I don’t know. Did a guy ever try to kiss you on your doorstep? Like drop you off at home and here’s? Yeah. Okay, so it still happens. You’re a lot younger than me, so I’m not totally irrelevant here.
Mariia Kramer [00:24:46]:
When it’s dark, it’s just more about safety.
Robbie Kramer [00:24:49]:
Walk her to the door. Yeah, because it just so what do you know when the guy’s got to walk you to the door?
Mariia Kramer [00:24:54]:
It depends on which level of relationship.
Robbie Kramer [00:24:57]:
Well, first date.
Mariia Kramer [00:24:58]:
First date, yeah. Would be just nice. And I would be thankful.
Robbie Kramer [00:25:03]:
Are you expecting him to kiss you?
Mariia Kramer [00:25:05]:
It depends how much I like the guy. Because if I really like the guy, I would kiss him.
Robbie Kramer [00:25:12]:
No, but are you expecting him to try to kiss you?
Mariia Kramer [00:25:16]:
No. I don’t care. I don’t know.
Robbie Kramer [00:25:18]:
I think you would be expecting him to because that’s what every guy tries to do. They wait until the very last moment because they’re afraid of when to go for the kiss. And whether that’s dropping her off at her door or leaving her in an Uber or just saying goodbye from wherever you met, they always wait till the very end. And that’s such a huge mistake because guess what? She’s expecting it. And anytime she’s expecting it, you’re going to just look like every other guy. And she’s going to have a way of handling that in the same way that she probably handles all the other guys that have failed with her.
Mariia Kramer [00:25:52]:
Not all guys kill girls on the.
Robbie Kramer [00:25:54]:
First date, and they should be usually in this scene.
Mariia Kramer [00:26:00]:
It’s just so awkward because if you were on the first date, then you had so much fun and he just like, okay, I’ll drop you by air apartments or something. And he just woke her to the door. And you having still, like a cool conversation. You’re laughing, and he’s like, okay, bye. See you next week. Then there is no problem. I wouldn’t expect him to kiss me or if he would want and I like him, yes, no problem. But this thing, it’s so awkward because he waits till the end and he.
Robbie Kramer [00:26:28]:
Gets so well, they’re not talking because.
Mariia Kramer [00:26:32]:
He knows that he needs to do this. And it makes him so nervous.
Robbie Kramer [00:26:35]:
Right.
Speaker E [00:26:38]:
I had a great time tonight, Albert.
Speaker D [00:26:41]:
I had a great time to allegra.
Robbie Kramer [00:26:44]:
So how do you know if a girl wants to kiss you? Well, she’s going to square her shoulders off just like this. She’s going to face you and she’s going to give you a very strong signal, like, you should kiss me I had a really great time tonight. Maria right. Like, if she didn’t want to be kissed, she would just keep her back towards she would open the door with her. She wouldn’t fumble with her keys. She’d just open the door and she’d give you the awkward seal or the.
Mariia Kramer [00:27:09]:
Hug where you yell like right, I agree.
Robbie Kramer [00:27:12]:
So if a girl ever squares off.
Mariia Kramer [00:27:14]:
You know your buddy, you look a straight icon.
Robbie Kramer [00:27:17]:
Right.
Speaker D [00:27:17]:
Time to allegra good night.
Robbie Kramer [00:27:41]:
And you can see the look on her face like, oh, why didn’t he do it? And this is what happens if you don’t kiss a girl when she wants to be kissed. She’s going to be like, you look like a he’s a pussy. You don’t get a second chance for that most of the time.
Mariia Kramer [00:27:53]:
Good night, Albert.
Robbie Kramer [00:28:08]:
Allegra yes.
Speaker D [00:28:14]:
Hold on.
Mariia Kramer [00:28:27]:
That was so bad. I know some guy would count in it.
Robbie Kramer [00:28:32]:
Like, I would be just maria so what should he have done first?
Mariia Kramer [00:28:44]:
I mean, you can go like this and just be more romantic, but let her kiss you right in the end, but never go. That’s so feminine. Girls doing this.
Robbie Kramer [00:28:55]:
It just felt so bad when you were, like, doing it to me as.
Mariia Kramer [00:28:57]:
The one because of different energy. Osculine energy and feminine.
Robbie Kramer [00:29:02]:
In the movie, they actually make a comment about how as the man, you should go 90% of the way and let the woman go the other 10%, which I think is pretty good advice. You don’t want to just grab her, but if you go exactly. That’s why you don’t want to just grab her and go, because it’s cringy. But if you move in slow, right, if you move in like slow and you’re looking at her eyes, there’s this thing called the triangular gaze where you look from. You don’t always stare at just one eye or the other eye because it becomes creepy. You’re just the staring guy. But if you switch your vision from left eye to right eye and then down to lips and then back from left eye to right eye down to lips, and you change like every five to 10 seconds, that can create a lot of attraction.
Mariia Kramer [00:29:47]:
He went for 0%, right? He just let her do everything.
Robbie Kramer [00:29:52]:
No. Yeah, he went 90 and then was not anywhere.
Mariia Kramer [00:29:55]:
And he just do everything for me. He didn’t do anything, like masculine that I think it’s so bad. But probably she really likes him, obviously.
Speaker E [00:30:17]:
I like your lips.
Speaker D [00:30:22]:
They seem to like you, too.
Robbie Kramer [00:30:38]:
What you’re going to say first?
Mariia Kramer [00:30:40]:
No, the scene is just super cheesy, as we mentioned. But it was good that he could kind of get all the confidence in there to kind of come back and kiss her.
Robbie Kramer [00:30:53]:
The good thing is that he didn’t say something first. He let her make the comment. Right after you kiss a girl and you pull away, if the first person to say something. Is the one who’s going to break the tension, typically. So you want to say something you don’t want, like, too much awkward time to go by with silence. Right? If you’re done kissing and she said, I like your lips, and he said, oh, I like your they like you too, which is a funny kind of flirty thing to say. So that was good. Next scene.
Speaker D [00:31:25]:
Maybe? Can I get a couple of Coronas over at the pool table, please? Thanks.
Speaker E [00:31:29]:
Excuse me.
Mariia Kramer [00:31:32]:
Excuse me.
Speaker D [00:31:33]:
Lime wedges in a bottle’s line.
Speaker E [00:31:35]:
Hey, asshole, I don’t work here.
Speaker D [00:31:39]:
Wow. I’m sorry. The paramedics are going to have to come to get my foot out of my mouth. Sweet.
Speaker E [00:31:46]:
Just don’t let it happen again.
Speaker D [00:31:49]:
I knew you didn’t work here.
Mariia Kramer [00:31:50]:
You did?
Speaker D [00:31:52]:
How else was I supposed to get you away from all those guys?
Speaker E [00:31:56]:
Why would you want to do that?
Robbie Kramer [00:31:58]:
Some guys naturally, realistic, I think it’s good. Yeah, I think it’s great.
Mariia Kramer [00:32:04]:
Can be so like Hollywood and blah blah. But I think it’s a good thing. I don’t think the girl will just like, okay, keep the money and don’t do anything. She will like, hey, like, I don’t work here. It’s for sure the reaction that you can expect from the girl. And if you’re cool enough, you have good fashion, you’re confident, or you try to be confident, then you can look good. Then you can try it out, actually, and just try to have fun. Even if she will reject you, just try to have a fun experience.
Robbie Kramer [00:32:43]:
I think it’s super usable. You could totally go and try this out because if you give her a 20, she’s going to feel the need to come and chase you down. It’s a great way to get her away from a bunch of guys. And then also the part where he grabs her hand, she puts some money in his hand and he holds onto the hand. That part is key because she’s going to be offended, of course. And then he’s going to pull her back in and be like, I know you didn’t work here. And that’s where the attraction switches because you’re doing something so bold and ballsy in the first place. She’s going to be like, oh my God, like, shock and awe. What is going on here? And then you’ve got her alone. You did a ballsy move, and it’s pretty smooth. I think you could definitely pull that off.
Mariia Kramer [00:33:24]:
Yeah, I love it.
Robbie Kramer [00:33:25]:
If anyone does that, you should record it and then send it to us and then we can break it down on video. That would be my suggestion. So please send in your submissions. I’m sure we’ll get a lot of them. All right, well, thank you, my dear. Thought that was hopefully some good value for you guys, learning what to do and what not to do from the movie Hitch.
Mariia Kramer [00:33:49]:
Fashion is the key also.
Robbie Kramer [00:33:51]:
Yeah. Fashion never hurts. So until next time. Bye. Bye.
Mariia Kramer [00:33:57]:
Bye.
Robbie Kramer [00:33:58]:
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