243: Ace the First Date – From Boring to Captivating by Dodging 8 Lethal Mistakes
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Intro :
Host Robbie KramIn this episode of the Inner Confidence Podcast, host Robbie Kramer explores how to navigate the tricky world of first kisses and common dating mistakes. With a focus on setting the right vibe and building sexual tension, Robbie identifies key mistakes, such as being too physical or not physical enough. The discussion centers around 8 lethal dating errors that could tank your chances with a woman and provides practical strategies to stand out in the competitive dating landscape. Robbie also offers advice on different dating approaches, including in-person and online dating, and suggests methods to decrease chances of flaking. Emphasizing the significance of striking a balance in physical touch and interaction, this episode serves as a comprehensive guide to enhancing your dating game. For deeper insight, download Robbie’s free dating protocol by DMing him on Instagram. Tune in to optimize your first dates and avoid pitfalls that could ruin your potential relationships.”
Show Notes:
04:43 – We dive into mistake #1! – Avoid stereotypical first dates! We discuss…
08:19 – Avoid dates where you have no time to potentially hook up! – Learn why time is important for a date!
10:54 – Schedule your dates after 8:30pm! – Host breaks it down…
12:14 – DON’T do elaborate dates! – Learn here!
14:08 – STOP being boring on dates! – Here is HOW!
15:39 – You NEED to flirt! – Learn how to be interesting!
16:22 – DON’T BE NEEDY! – this mistake will lower your chances with women horrendously!
16:59 – Religion, politics, spirituality, deep stuff, etc. – DON’T BRING THESE TOPICS up on your first dates! Learn why…
18:38 – Dating is the same as going to a job interview – Here is why!
19:56 – YOU make the first move! – Learn how to move the interaction forwards!
20:28 – If you are around 35 and slept with less than 30 people, then DO THIS to gain experience!
22:44 – Don’t be PUSHY – Learn here how to find a balance between being too careful or too pushy!
24:28 – “Your potential role is becoming my girlfriend!” – Get a good perspective on what a date actually is, YOU are in control!
25:21 – Download the dating protocol! It’s FREE! DM @robbie_kramer on Instagram: @robbie_kramer
26:29 – Girl you meet in real life VS Online – Who is more likely to flake and why? FIND out here!
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[Robbie Kramer [00:00:00]:
So what’s the best way to get a second date? Sleep with the girl on the first date.
Mariia Kramer [00:00:03]:
Oh, that’s ridiculous.
Robbie Kramer [00:00:04]:
Dinner dates. Very bad move for before you’ve had sex. Really good move after. So what’s the opposite of boring?
Mariia Kramer [00:00:11]:
Too excited, too gamey.
Robbie Kramer [00:00:13]:
It’s your job to lead. It’s her job to slow things down spiritual right stuff.
Mariia Kramer [00:00:18]:
And it’s like, it would thorn me.
Robbie Kramer [00:00:19]:
Off, you know, which girl’s more likely.
Mariia Kramer [00:00:21]:
To play, of course.
Robbie Kramer [00:00:24]:
So I’ll yeah, then they’re like, too bored and too pushy. And then you got to be like, well, you can’t be that pushy. And they’re like, well, you just told me to be pushy, so this is a problem I run into a lot and I actually dealt with.
Speaker C [00:00:34]:
Welcome to the Inner Confidence Podcast, where we bring you men’s dating and lifestyle advice that doesn’t suck. I’m your host, Robbie Kramer, a former collegiate golfer turned poker pro turned finance guy who became obsessed with learning about male female attraction and dynamics and passionate about teaching men how to improve and optimize their love life. Tune in each week and we’ll bring you the latest and greatest strategies on how to get more dates, how to build a thriving social circle that brings the best men and women into your life, how to become a better networker, and how to design a lifestyle that makes all your buddies jealous. If you’re new to the show, I recommend you download my first Date Protocol. It’s the best piece of content I have. It’ll help you optimize your first date and subsequent dates. And I like to connect with my listeners personally, so if you want to grab a copy of that, please send me a direct message on Instagram. I’m at Robbie Kramer. Now, let’s dive into this week’s content.
Robbie Kramer [00:01:25]:
Welcome back to the Interconfidence podcast. I’m your host. We already did that in the introduction, so you know who I am. And this is my lovely wife, Maria.
Mariia Kramer [00:01:33]:
Hi.
Robbie Kramer [00:01:34]:
And today we have an episode on the eight lethal dating mistakes that will ruin your chances with that girl that you took on a date forever. So make one of these mistakes, and it could ruin the whole thing. Getting dates with beautiful women, especially ones that you’re really into for most guys, isn’t easy. For the guys in the intercontinental community, it’s quite easy because we’re using all the strategies to do that and to gain more leads. But really, you don’t want to be messing this stuff up, because obviously it’s like you went to all that hard work to get the date. I mean, at least put in the right amount of effort to make that date be optimal. And I would say out of everything, this is such a crucial step in the process where it’s like you can control almost everything. Because she agreed to go on a date with you in the first place, right? So she’s expressed some interest. She could have done anything that night and she’s choosing to spend it with you. So if you are not really putting a lot of time and attention to detail into your dates to optimize them, well, shame on you because other guys are doing it and your competition is out there, right? And if you stay to the end, after we give you the most the Eight Lethal Mistakes, I’m going to show you a way to get flakes really under control before the date. Because last thing anyone wants is for the date to flake last minute. So I’ve got a strategy to help eliminate flakes. Obviously, you’re never going to be able to eliminate them completely, but this will make a big difference. So before we dive in, you have anything you want to say about your experience with guys running bad dates versus good dates? Luckily, you didn’t go on a ton of dates before I got married.
Mariia Kramer [00:03:25]:
Yes, I will share some experience in future if it will be related to me. But girls always flakes. It’s not about the guy. It’s about they found something better. They got invited on like concert and they want to go. They will flake on you. It’s not about you, it’s about them finding something better to do.
Robbie Kramer [00:03:49]:
Let’s talk about flakes in the end. Yeah, but I agree. If a girl does flake on you a lot of the time, it’s because it had nothing to do with you. And sometimes it’s because you messed some of these things up.
Mariia Kramer [00:04:02]:
It’s mostly about messaging. If the guy message too much before the date, we schedule the date for a week. Maybe write me once and say or.
Robbie Kramer [00:04:11]:
Like once that’s for a different podcast. Okay, we’re not going over that. We’ve got lots of other trainings on texting and how to create, how to best set up the date. But like I said, let’s leave that for another time. You can watch other videos on the channel. We’ve done podcasts where we go over that. The texting mistakes ones, we’ve done. I really recommend those ones because we go over all that in very excruciatingly small detail so you guys don’t mess that up. So number one mistake is going to the wrong venues. And what’s the stereotypical? Like, first date, what is the restaurant? The restaurant? Exactly. And why do dinner dates suck?
Mariia Kramer [00:04:55]:
First, because you sit in front of each other and there is no chemistry. You’re just so far away from each other. You eating food or it’s like a little bit awkward of speaking. And after, when you going back home, you had zero chemistry. You just had like little talk, you ate your food. And after a lot of girls were like, I didn’t felt anything, sorry, I didn’t feel the chemistry between us, blah, blah, blah.
Robbie Kramer [00:05:29]:
Well, you can’t control the time frame in a dinner, right? You’re at the mercy of the restaurant, the wait staff, how long the food takes, and maybe she’s going to show up and really like you, and you’re going to want to kiss her within the first ten or 15 minutes, but you won’t be able to because you’re sitting across from a table. And it’s not like making out in a restaurant. It’s not really social protocol. So you can’t control that. And it’s not like you can just get up and be like, all right, we’re getting a check and going back to my place, because that’s obviously too craft. So you’re really just at the mercy of that timetable. And some dinner dates, like, if you go to a nice restaurant, it’s going to take like an hour and a half, 2 hours, and it’s going to be incredibly difficult to manage the vibe.
Mariia Kramer [00:06:12]:
And sometimes they can forget something from your order or forget about your order, or just like, you wait for your food for like 50 minutes.
Robbie Kramer [00:06:20]:
There’s all sorts of things that are going to go wrong. The waiter is going to come over, he’s going to interrupt you. Right. You’re adding variables to the equation. Anytime you do that in math, it makes the equation more complicated. We want to remove variables, not add them.
Mariia Kramer [00:06:34]:
But it’s like when you just meet the girl for the first time, because now we’re married, we’re going for dates all the time.
Robbie Kramer [00:06:41]:
Of course we’re talking about first dates, right? Like, hey, if you guys are already sleeping together, great, do dinner dates. I’m glad you brought that up. So, yeah, this isn’t like overall dating mistake. Of course we go to dinner dates every month for our anniversary. Right. We just went on one last night, a nice French restaurant, got some amazing burgers. So dinner dates, very bad move for before you’ve had sex, really good move after. Other things that fall into that category are movies, any sort of show, comedy clubs. Why do you think these suck?
Mariia Kramer [00:07:16]:
You don’t have time to speak.
Robbie Kramer [00:07:20]:
The focus of attention is on the thing you’re watching.
Mariia Kramer [00:07:22]:
Yeah, right.
Robbie Kramer [00:07:23]:
And you can make the argument. Well, yeah, if you’re at a movie, you can do like the subtle escalation and stuff, but it’s like, again, if it’s the first date in the first venue, you’re probably not going to do that. And if you do, can you break these rules? Yes, maybe. But why would you want to?
Mariia Kramer [00:07:39]:
For me, it’s about, oh, my God, he couldn’t come up with anything more interesting than a movie. Come on, really? That’s super cliche.
Robbie Kramer [00:07:47]:
Another bad date and this is kind of going to segue into the next one a little bit, but anywhere that’s like a really brightly lit coffee shop or something that has no vibe to it whatsoever. Like a big corporate looking Starbucks. Hey, if you’re just going to meet the date there for ten minutes, grab a coffee and then leave, that’s fine. But like, sitting at a brightly lit place as a long venue, one is not a good date. Either. So that’s mistake number one. Mistake number two, doing dates where you don’t have enough time to potentially have actually hook up. Right. Have sex. So what’s the best way to get a second date? Sleep with the girl on the first date.
Mariia Kramer [00:08:37]:
That’s ridiculous. Now it happens.
Robbie Kramer [00:08:39]:
It happens all the time.
Mariia Kramer [00:08:40]:
I know, but like how many girls do sleep?
Robbie Kramer [00:08:42]:
A lot of them. I’m not sure about a lot of them. Trust me. You’re the exception, not the rule. You don’t have the data on this. I do. Trust me. So lots of girls will sleep with you on the first date.
Mariia Kramer [00:08:53]:
Do you want to actually date a girl afterwards?
Robbie Kramer [00:08:55]:
That’s a different conversation. Maybe not. Right. We’re talking about the best way to see a girl is to have sex with her on the first date. And that’s probably why you’re on the date. She might not want to do that, which is fine. Right. We’re not trying to push girls to have sex as fast as we can. But if she does want to have sex, you should see yourself as the guy who’s moving the interaction forward and she’s going to want to do those things on her terms.
Mariia Kramer [00:09:22]:
Okay, but if every girl will sleep on every single her first date, why.
Robbie Kramer [00:09:28]:
Would every girl sleep let’s just remove every from this is never going to happen.
Mariia Kramer [00:09:33]:
That’s just weird. Okay.
Robbie Kramer [00:09:35]:
I’m not arguing for whether or not it’s good. I’m saying what guys should do to optimize their first dates. So I’m not saying you have to and we’re going to get into this later, but you should have time when you schedule that date for the date to go as long as it possibly can.
Mariia Kramer [00:09:52]:
That’s true, because if the girl is really into you and she wants to have sex with it, then yes, I do understand it. But if the girl is like, they’re not so touchy and they’re not giving you so much emotions for you to understand that she’s ready for something, then.
Robbie Kramer [00:10:12]:
If the guy is pushing I’m not talking about pushing. That’s coming later. Okay, let’s try to stay on topic. You can do it. I’m just talking about don’t schedule dates at four in the afternoon because I’m sure she’s got stuff to do later on the evening. If you have a business meeting at nine and you schedule a date for 06:00, that’s really silly because if the date’s going really well and you guys are getting hot and heavy and you’ve got to kill that vibe. You’re making it harder for the next time because she might go on a date tomorrow and hook up with that guy and then decide she want to be with him instead. Right. So anytime you what is the perfect time schedule your dates around 830, which is after dinner. You start with drinks and you can go all night. Right. It’s not like she’s going to have something scheduled to do after that.
Mariia Kramer [00:11:04]:
What do you change? Do you change places?
Robbie Kramer [00:11:08]:
We’re going to get in that. These are just mistakes, right? So the mistake is doing lunch dates, doing breakfast dates or coffee dates. Obviously there’s exceptions to every rule, right. If she’s only free for these certain periods of time, can you do it okay if she’s really hot, sure. But a lot of the time girls will make an exception if you stick to your guns. Right. Like, she might be like, oh, I’m kind of busy, so why don’t we meet at like 07:00 and we’ll just grab drinks for an hour and I’ll have to go. And if you’re like most guys, you’re going to be like, okay, sure, let’s do that. But you’re setting yourself up for a boring time limited date versus if you say, let’s just wait for another day when you actually have time, you don’t have anything scheduled later on, then she’ll be like, oh, actually, my schedule freed up, let’s meet.
Mariia Kramer [00:11:55]:
That happens all she will say, okay. And after she’ll actually be even more into you because you weren’t thirsty to see her.
Robbie Kramer [00:12:04]:
Exactly, yeah. So it’s your job to lead. It’s her job to slow things down. Right. And don’t set yourself up to where you can’t do that. That’s the main thing. Mistake number three is doing elaborate dates because those sorts of dates are usually very far from your house.
Mariia Kramer [00:12:23]:
What does elaborate mean?
Robbie Kramer [00:12:25]:
Like a big fancy thing, like going to the zoo or doing this hike that’s far away. Because anytime you have to drive somewhere or she has to drive somewhere, you’re just creating extra logistics. The idea is to have a connection and go back to your place. After I’m going to get into venue changing, but the idea is again, for the date to end in a sexual connection because that’s why you’re both there. You’re there as a man and a woman. So don’t do dates that are far away from your house because that’s going to make it harder to get back to your house. Now, if she lives really far away, don’t meet in the middle. That’s terrible. Better to go to her, and that way she can invite you back to.
Mariia Kramer [00:13:07]:
Her place or she can comes to you. Depends. Where do you live? If you live in really good big city, obviously it’s better if someone comes to you because if someone lives in small town, there is nothing to do if you will go there. That’s like bad.
Robbie Kramer [00:13:22]:
Yeah. The rule of thumb is he who lives outside of civilization comes to the person that lives in civilization.
Mariia Kramer [00:13:29]:
Yeah.
Robbie Kramer [00:13:30]:
Because you can find cool places, so try to find venues. I’m going to talk about the dating protocol. In the dating protocol that I have, we have a very specific four venue protocol. Right. And I’ll get into some of those later after we go through the mistakes. But the idea is venue one, two, and three are all very close to your house. Venue four is your house. It could also be venue four at her house. And then you would want venue one, two, and three, being really close. So close you can walk in between. Some cities, this is difficult. Other cities, like New York City, this is really easy, right? But don’t do dates that are far away because, again, you’re making it really hard to hook up if that date goes well. Mistake number four, being boring.
Mariia Kramer [00:14:14]:
I don’t think people can control it, unfortunately.
Robbie Kramer [00:14:17]:
Oh, they can. This is the biggest mistake ever. Now, if you just show up and you try to have a good dinner date, you’re going to be boring. Because guess what? You probably haven’t studied the art of conversation. You’re not that interesting and witty and cool. But if you follow the dating protocol, which shows you built in ways to flirt, ways to create sexual tension, ways to have conversations that steer towards the things that she’s interested in, that create an emotional connection that you’re interested in, then you’re never going to be boring. But for the average guy who isn’t taking the time to learn this stuff, his default, even if he’s like, a cool guy, is going to be boring because there’s that little bit of awkwardness. It’s the first date, right? And you’re probably going to start with this biographical exchange of information. And if you don’t know how to transition that vibe from flirty into deep rapport and back to flirting, you don’t know how to shift gears, then you’re going to get stuck in that. And I’m sure you’ve been on dates before where it’s like, the guy was attractive, he was cool, but he was just boring. Because you guys just talked about boring stuff the whole time.
Mariia Kramer [00:15:20]:
Yeah. And it gets so awkward that you want to leave as soon as possible, and you’re like writing your girlfriend, can you call me and say that there is an emergency, please? Because it’s so awkward and you like, you don’t know how to deal with that, and you just escape.
Robbie Kramer [00:15:40]:
So remember, she’s on a date with you, which means she likes you. She could have done anything that night she went out with you. Right? There’s already this man woman context. If we like each other, then we will go into down the romantic path. So you need to flirt, right? You can’t just sit there and think that talking about your job is going to be interesting to her.
Mariia Kramer [00:16:03]:
I mean, if you want to be in the friend zone, then yes, welcome.
Robbie Kramer [00:16:06]:
Quickest ticket to the friend zone, being boring, right? And guys who don’t have a plan, you will be boring, I promise. When I teach my clients a dating protocol and just the simple flirty ways, like the second she shows up, there’s ways to flirt, you’re never going to be boring. Right? Now, the next mistake, not so surprisingly, is what’s the opposite of boring, too excited or too gamey. What this means, let’s say you’re really worried about being boring, so you study so much attraction material that you just overgame the hell out of her, right? You study all these routines and you’re like, reading her palms, and then you’re like I mean, some palm reading can be fine, but if you’re doing just routine after routine after routine, and you’re never making a connection, you’re never actually getting to know her. And it’s just like Flash game after Flash game after this and after that, that’s going to look really uncalibrated.
Mariia Kramer [00:17:02]:
But I also can relate it to the guys who goes to super intimate and deep stuff conversations that’s like, man, I see you, like, first time, or we speak on IG I don’t want to share with you something so intimate about my life.
Robbie Kramer [00:17:18]:
No, you’re talking about the one client we have who shares, who tries to talk about really deep topics, really spiritual.
Mariia Kramer [00:17:27]:
Stuff, and it would turn me off. I want to talk about basic stuff to at least get to know you as a person and understand if I really like you and I trust to share with you something more.
Robbie Kramer [00:17:39]:
Right. You have to let the conversation flow there naturally. You don’t want to talk about religion. You don’t want to talk about politics. Spirituality is very similar to religion, so that’s a dangerous one. Even if you’re the same religion, even if you’re the same spirituality. Yeah, that’s probably a little bit safer. But those conversations aren’t necessarily that sexy.
Mariia Kramer [00:17:58]:
They’re not sexy at all.
Robbie Kramer [00:18:00]:
It’s like, be careful. Right? It’s a booby trap.
Mariia Kramer [00:18:03]:
Yeah.
Robbie Kramer [00:18:04]:
And remember, women aren’t probably studying how to be great conversationalists on dates.
Mariia Kramer [00:18:11]:
They don’t care.
Robbie Kramer [00:18:12]:
Right? They don’t care. It’s not something that they really need to worry about because the frame that they have is typically like, all right, he asked me on a date. I hope he impresses me, or let’s see if he can impress me.
Mariia Kramer [00:18:22]:
Yeah, of course. Because it’s not like guys are getting invited on dates every day.
Robbie Kramer [00:18:29]:
When you go on enough dates, you can flip that frame, and you can go in qualifying her social circle, it’s different. No, I’m not talking about that. I’m saying if you’re a guy who gets a lot of dates, just like, think about a job interview, right? Like, who’s got the power in job interview? Usually the person doing the hiring. Right? You’re coming in, you’re interviewing for the job. I’m asking you questions to see if you’re qualified, because I’m the boss. Right. But if you come into that interview and you kind of flip that script and you start asking questions to me about, is this company a good fit for me? Then it changes the power dynamic. So that’s a little trick you can do. You need to qualify her to do something like that. Exactly. And if you never have dates, it’s really hard to do just like if you’re really nervous about that one job interview, you really want to get that job, you’re probably not going to get the job. This is why you need an abundance of leads and an abundance of dates, so you can improve your conversion rates, right? Being too boring, being overgame. So those are the last two mistakes. Next mistake, I guess this is number six, is not being physical enough, not going for the first kiss.
Mariia Kramer [00:19:40]:
I agree. Because you will sort the girls out. If the girl really like you and she went with you on the date, she will probably kiss you, right? But if she won’t, you will understand that you’re wasting your time.
Robbie Kramer [00:19:53]:
Well, is she going to make the move on you, the girl?
Mariia Kramer [00:19:57]:
No, of course not. She will not make any moves. She will enjoy her dates without making anything.
Robbie Kramer [00:20:04]:
It’s very rare that the girl makes a move. So if you’re waiting for her to make a move or for her to give you a blatantly obvious signal to make a move, that’s really a big mistake, right? It’s your job to, like I said, lead the interaction forward physically. So if you’re not getting a lot of dates and your goal is to get better on dates and get more dates, a great rule. Another way, if you’re not super experienced, right? Like if you’ve probably slept with less than, I don’t know, 30 people, that’s a lot. Well, for you, baby, that’s good. But for a guy in his late 20s, early 30s, or even for a woman, right, that’s actually not that many people, right? If you’re 35 years old and you became sexually active at 18, right? So that’s 17 years of sexual activity and you’ve only had 30 partners, speak.
Mariia Kramer [00:20:56]:
About 35, maybe for 35, it depends.
Robbie Kramer [00:20:59]:
On your age, right? But 30 partners is really not a lot.
Mariia Kramer [00:21:02]:
Okay.
Robbie Kramer [00:21:04]:
It’s a good amount, I guess you could say. But if you have less than that, a great rule of thumb is to try to kiss every girl on the first date. Because guess what? If you kiss her and you get rejected, it almost never means never. It means not yet. And when you go for the kiss and she gives you the cheek or she kind of pulls away, at least you have information from that, and at least she knows that, all right, this guy’s trying. At least he’s not a wuss bag. He’s not like some I can’t friend zone that guy, right? Like, you’re not going to get a friend zone. If you go for the kiss, you might eventually get like, I’m not interested. But the worst case is that when you don’t know. And when you’re like, I don’t know if she likes me or not, I’m going to take her on five days.
Mariia Kramer [00:21:46]:
Because they don’t know.
Robbie Kramer [00:21:47]:
Exactly. So if you want to know how to go for the kiss, you should watch the last podcast where we show an example from a movie. It was the Hitch podcast, I think, episode 242, and we go over what to do and what not to do to go for the first kiss. So go for it, right. And go for it in the Dating Protocol on venue two. And I show you exactly how to create the vibe to go for it, because that’s a big thing, is, like, if you just lunge for it, I mean, that’s better than nothing. But you don’t want to do that if it’s you obviously want to do it in a smooth way when you let the sexual tension build and, you know, you find that right moment, and that takes some experience. All right, mistake number seven. Well, mistake number six was not getting physical enough. Mistake number seven is getting too physical, which goes all the way back to when we talked about, I think, the third mistake, where you were like, no, they shouldn’t be taking girls home on the first date. Miss the nun over here. But obviously we don’t want to get too physical. We don’t want to be the pushy, thirsty chump who’s, like, pushing for sex and way too excited. You’ve, I’m sure, dealt with these guys.
Mariia Kramer [00:22:58]:
Yeah, you look they look so thirsty. You know, that person probably didn’t have a sex for a year, and you’re the perfect chance to have it. You don’t want to deal with guys like that. It’s just so I don’t know. It’s so unattractive. You can’t handle it. It’s so unattractive.
Robbie Kramer [00:23:15]:
It’s a huge turn off immediately when it comes to dating, there’s, like, guidelines and best practices. Right. But if you tell people you got to be forward, then they usually make the mistake. If they listen, which is good, is then they’re, like, too forward and too pushy. And then you got to be like, well, you can’t be that pushy, and like, well, you just told me to be pushy, so this is a problem I run into a lot and I actually dealt with when I was going through the process. Is it’s hard to find that middle ground? Of course. Right. You have to err on both sides. So as you’re improving, sometimes you’re going to be a little bit on the pushy side, and then you’re going to course correct, and you’re going to be a little bit on the passive side. And it’s all about eventually finding that sweet spot, but being too physical, touching her too much, touching her inappropriately. All of those things are such a huge turn off.
Mariia Kramer [00:24:02]:
Yeah. Especially if she’s letting you know she doesn’t like it.
Robbie Kramer [00:24:06]:
So remember, a great way to see if she wants to be touched is she touching you back, right.
Mariia Kramer [00:24:14]:
No, of course. Or is she touching you herself?
Robbie Kramer [00:24:17]:
That’s a great sign. Exactly. And the last mistake number eight is not having the correct frame. And we kind of went into that a little bit, but essentially, it’s the idea that we talked about, which is, like, who’s interviewing who, right? I’m taking you out on a date. You’re on my date. I’m interviewing you for your potential role as my girlfriend or one of my girlfriends. Right? So I’m the one in control. I’m interviewing you, not me. Trying to hope that you like me, not me impressing you. Right. And I’m also going to be a little bit, like, entitled. Meaning, like, you’re on a date with me. Of course you like me. I’m going to assume that you’re attracted to me. I’m going to assume that you like right? But guys get all nervous, like, oh, well, I don’t know if I can do that because maybe she’s not into me. It’s like, dude, she’s on the date. She came out with you. Right? Like, assume it’s on, and that will be a self fulfilling prophecy. If you assume that she likes you, she’s going to be like, oh, God, this guy’s confident, he’s smooth. I like it. So that’s the last one. Now, in terms of what to do instead, I can’t highly recommend enough that you guys download a copy of my dating protocol. It’s free. All you got to do is go to Instagram and send me a direct message. Robbie. R-O-V-B-I-E underscore Kramer. K-R-A-M-E-R. Just say, send me the dating protocol, jerk. Or other explicit. Is that how you say it? Explicitive term like asshole, schmuck, idiot, whatever. I always find that funny.
Mariia Kramer [00:25:54]:
No, don’t send it that’s bad.
Robbie Kramer [00:25:57]:
Just don’t tell Maria that you sent it. So ask for it. I’ll send you a copy. It’s going to tell you exactly what to do, which venues to choose, how to follow up before the date, how to follow up after the date, and everything in between to make sure that date is executed flawlessly. It’s the best piece of content I have. And if you’re not doing these things, like I said, you’re just at a huge disadvantage of the competition. So the last thing, as I promised, is how to eliminate the chance of flakes before the date. Well, the odds of a girl flaking who met you face to face versus who you haven’t met online, what do you think the difference is? Which girl is more likely to flake online? Of course, obviously, I’m a big fan of approaching women in real life or meeting them through a social circle that you build and develop. I’m not talking about your current social circle that consists of, like, one cute girl and you and all your buddies who compete for her attention in your friend zone for the last ten years. I’m talking about building a new social circle of really high value guys and beautiful girls that you can then leverage into your dating life. That’s a great strategy. Approaching is a great strategy. Of course, in the interconference community, we’ve got tons of online. Dating scripts. And we teach you how to get a lot of dates from that method, too. That funnel, I call it. And the one thing that is a little bit different, like I said with online dating, is and it’s going to depend if you’re using which sites, right? Because Tinder is more of a hookup site, then you’ve got sites like Seeking, which is even more of another sort of we don’t want to go down that road. But for the standard sort of bumble or hinge Tinder, depending on your city, one way you can really eliminate flakes is to call the girl before the date, right? Once you’ve scheduled the date, shoot her a message or just be like, yo, I’m going to call you in a few minutes. Pick up, you have a quick conversation. You just have, like, that vibey, flirty, fun little five minute, ten minute conversation. If you have that conversation, she’s way less likely to flake, right? If you don’t have that conversation, ODS are last minute, probably like a 66% to 75% chance she will flake on you. And then you got to play the game of dealing with the flake and it’s just much tougher. So we’ve got a texting guide to deal with all of those things, but that would be my recommendation. So, baby, tell them what to do next. Don’t be creepy, subscribe.
Mariia Kramer [00:28:37]:
Don’t be creepy and subscribe and put.
Robbie Kramer [00:28:41]:
Your, like, how do you say, like our shit. Yeah, I mean, if you listen this far, leave us leave us a review. Tell us we’re ugly.
Mariia Kramer [00:28:51]:
No, you can tell him he’s ugly. Telling me what you think about me?
Robbie Kramer [00:28:56]:
Perfect. Well, hope you got a lot of value from this, guys. If you want any individual help and for me to take a very direct look at your situation, go to start Innerconfidence.com. And we’ll jump on the phone for a dating assessment. Until next time. Thanks, baby. See you, guys.
Mariia Kramer [00:29:15]:
See you.
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That’d be great.
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